A Friendly Competition (sort of)

A Friendly Competition (sort of)

I’ve gotten a little obsessed with creating lip balm (you can see my recipe HERE).  Once I figured out how much fun it is to make and how easy, I went a little crazy.  Every time I have a free half hour I make a few more tubes of it.  I can’t stop…..I may need a lip balm intervention.

Because there was a genuine risk of us of getting overrun with all of my lip balm concoctions piling up in corners of my house, I decided to send them to my friends.  Everyone loves a homemade gift, right?  It’s been super-fun mailing them off to their new homes and hoping they are enjoyed by the recipients!  I have so many flavors at this point that I just close my eyes, grab two and put them in an envelope.  😉

If you’re wondering how to get some of my awesome lip balms for yourself, all you have to do is sign up to join my Young Living team, get your Premium Starter Kit and that’s it!  Easy peasy!

If you've been wanting to get some oessential oils, now's the time! I'll send you great gifts and you can help me win a friendly competition!

 

Did you notice the other goodies in the picture above???  The $20 VISA gift card and my favorite helpful reference book?!  I will mail those with the balm!  Woohoo!!!  That’s just the beginning….I also add you to my amazing Facebook support group and you can subscribe to my FREE text service where I send you weekly tips and help you feel inspired to use them!  I never want anyone to order a kit then put it in a drawer and not USE their amazing oils!

Here’s a quick overview of what’s in your kit, but you can go HERE to read about it all in more detail.

Thieves Vitality – your healthy lifestyle friend! It helps clean the air, boosts immunity, it’s simply amazing!
DiGize Vitality – supports a healthy digestive system, alleviates nausea and upset tummies, great for irregularity, relief from occasional heartburn.
Peppermint Vitality – keeps
your head happy, supports healthy digestive system, promotes proper nasal and respiratory function…it’s fantabulous!!!
Lemon Vitality – maintains every levels, promotes good digestion, detoxing the body. SO many uses!
Copiaba Vitality – supports body’s response to injury/irritation, is a driving oil (pushes other oils to work better!), is soothing from the inside out.
Purification – eliminates bad odors, it’s air-cleaning, great for laundry, feels amazing rubbed on the outside of the throat!
Frankincense – incredible for skin, immune system support, promotes feelings of calmness and balance, eases minor tension/anxiety, clears my mind (it was given to baby Jesus ya know!)
RC – contains 3 different kinds of eucalyptus, which are known to promote a healthy respiratory system, builds comforting environment
PanAway – so helpful! Helps with occasional head discomfort, everyday joint and muscle aches, and that…ahem….time of the month yuckiness.
Lavender – this is the “Swiss Army knife of essential oils”! Gives the house a springtime feeling, great for relaxation, is very calming, promotes healthy skin, it’s kinda incredible!
StressAway – exactly how it sounds. Ahhhh….. It’s all SO GOOD! Leave your email slow and I’ll help hook you up. You won’t regret it!
A diffuser – you don’t want to start your oil journey without a diffuser…they are such a boost to your home!
Samples, Sharables, and Bottles….oh my!

This kit is so well rounded that you should have everything you need to start.  Once you get going you will want more and I am ready to help you any time!!!  I love, love talking with my team members.

AND….for fun I have a little competition going with another oily friend of mine to see who can get the most new team members this month and so I am upping the ante.  I really hate to lose to this gal because she is a rock star.  So IF I beat her by getting the most new members, I will draw from my new July members and send the winner a package of the new Thieves Infused Cough Drops.  This is a product they just introduced at last month’s convention and I already know I don’t want to go through the winter without it!  I have ordered a couple of extra bags so we don’t run out!  If you think you might deal with coughs or sore throats this winter you need to have these on hand!

This means if you join NOW then you will be entered to win the cough drops and I will beat my friend which gives me supreme bragging rights.  Help a sister out, will ya?

Help me win my competition with my friend and you wim too! Not only will you get your essential oils kitm, but you'll be entered to win a special prize!!!

This competition is all for fun, of course, but when you get your oils YOU are the real winner.  You’ll be setting yourself up for a new start with natural health and a chemical-free lifestyle!  And the other families that are in my Facebook group who are available for you to meet are incredible people….they amaze me every day!  And as far as I can tell, none of them are obsessed with making lip balm so you won’t be surrounded by the weirdness.  That will only come from me.

Friends, you are such a blessing to me every day and the reason I tell you about Young Living products because I want to bless you back.  They have changed my life and given me ways to deal with everything from coughs to mood swings to my introverted need to run and hide in a crowd.  I want you to experience the level of strength and support that I have!!!

 

Sign up HERE and you’re on your way to a better life!

 

If you have any questions, hop over to my Facebook page and lay it on me.  I am thrilled to help in any way I can!

 

I am not a doctor; the information I share here is only my experience from taking care of my own family.  If you have any health problems please consult your physician.  I recommend finding one that will support alternative solutions. 
 
An Exciting Summer Camp for MOMS!!!

An Exciting Summer Camp for MOMS!!!

I am SO excited to announce that I have put together a GREAT Summer Camp for Moms!

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Now, before you run to the storage and start digging around for your old backpack and sleeping bag…..hold on!  This camp is going to take place online.  Yep, that’s right.  You get to sleep in your own bed and have all the air-conditioning you want.  But at the same time, you’ll be making new friends, getting camp-style encouragement and being refreshed.  We moms need a break too!

From July 4-August 12 we will be hanging out together and getting uplifted.  When you sign up for Mom’s Summer Camp….aka Camp Gimmeabreak…you’ll be added to our camp Facebook group where we will have daily morning encouragement, pray for each other, share healthy encouragement and even have a weekly bonfire with special guests.  Every Monday you will get an email with a video from me, a list of ideas for making your week shine and some tips for building great summer memories!  We will be going through my book, “Mama Needs a Do-Over“, so be sure to pick that up before camp starts next week!

Before you start to think, “This might be too much for me to do….I have a FULL schedule already!” let me assure you that I understand!  These are full days for all of us, so I am making sure that there are no hard assignments or overwhelming actions that will keep you from getting through camp.  This is exactly what you need….a few weeks of summer fun just for MOM!

So, how do you sign up?!  Well it’s super simple!  Just click HEREto get started!  Tell all of your friends and spread the word…this is gonna be a great way to escape the summer blahs!

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And I have a LOT of surprises up my sleeve for this time we will spend together.  You DO NOT want to miss a second of it!

See you around the campfire!

 

A Little Mom Time

A Little Mom Time

Moms need breaks sometimes. If you're feeling bad about resting, it's time for you to get over that!

Well? How was your weekend?

It was pretty quiet around here.  It was supposed to be busy, but things got cancelled and changed and it turned out to be kinda slow, which was so nice.

On Saturday it was just me and my younger three boys at home, so I told them that if they got all of their chores done quickly they could have the afternoon free.  The only requirement for their free time was that at least an hour of it had to be doing something outside.

I could hear them plotting while they swept and folded the clothes.  By the time we were all done with chores they had a whole plan in motion.  Their plan included sword fights, super heroes, eating nachos and playing wii.  That was perfect for me because my plan included ignoring them for the afternoon while I caught up on my reading.  I have two books that I am in the middle of, one fiction and one non-fiction.  There are always two because sometimes I’m in the mood for educating myself and other times I’m in the mood to get swept away in a great story.  This day it was fiction.

I settled in my bedroom and read my delicious book.  When the day was over I was feeling pretty refreshed.  I mean, what’s more relaxing than a clean house and happy kids who are playing together?  Nothing, I tell you, nothing.

On Sunday we visited a new church for the second time.  The whole finding-a-church thing is so hard.  You visit one for a few weeks, realize it’s really not the right fit for you and you move on.  Sometimes it’s obvious why the place is not right for you and sometimes it’s just a sense after much prayer and discussion.  We have had several great churches in our past that we loved and loved the people, but since we moved here many years ago that connection really hasn’t happened.  We’ve attended some for years, but not had that sense of belonging.  I’m not sure why God has kept us in this dry place, but we have continued the search and are not giving up.

After we got home yesterday it was the best part of my week….Sunday nap.  I mean to tell you my Sunday nap is critical to my well being the rest of the week.  I slept for 2 hours and woke up wondering where I was.  After a second I rolled over and just laid there…oh yeah, it’s Sunday.  It’s really the only day I can just let myself wake up slowly without someone waiting for me to help them or asking me a question.  There was nothing pressing, no work to do, no kids needing me for anything.

If you’re feeling jealous over my Saturday reading and Sunday napping, hear me when I tell you that these things were impossible for me for about 20 years.  With 9 kids and homeschooling and living on a hobby farm, there’s never been much time for rest.  So this is a new season and you will get there too.  When the babies are little it seems so far away, then you blink and you’re there wishing for them to be little again.  But not too little….’cuz that nap was pretty awesome.

This week it’s gonna be me bracing myself for the oncoming heat wave.  The temps are rising steadily and are expected to be 90 by the weekend.  That’s nothin’ compared to what’s ahead, but still too hot for this A/C loving mama.

Have a great Monday and hop over to Facebook to say hello!

Sweating and Crowds…Two of My Least Favorite Things

Sweating and Crowds…Two of My Least Favorite Things

Oh summer.  I have a love-hate relationship with it.  On one hand, it’s relaxed and the daily swim parties we have are so wonderful.  On the other hand I sweat so much that I walk around looking like I’ve been digging ditches in 100° temps wearing a leather suit.  That’s the hate part.  Oh, and the fact that every time you open your car door it feels like you’re being pushed into a kiln.  Otherwise summer is great.

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Right now, however, our issue is rain.  Rain and rain and more rain.  It’s a good thing I bought so many ponchos and umbrellas at Disney because they came in handy this past weekend.  It’s funny though, how normal a rain poncho looks on you at Disney World and how unusual it look around town.  I was the only person rockin’ one at Walmart.  People should get with it.  With a poncho my purse was protected from the rain, I stayed totally dry and my hands were free.  Umbrellas are nice, but ponchos are th’BOMB!  At one point I was using BOTH!  MmHmm.  I am a trend setter.

We are winding down a little bit with our school work.  We will have light lessons all summer, but the pool beckons us and we have no choice but to go out there every morning after breakfast and play silly games and splash around.  Every year the kids make up a game or two that keeps them challenged all through swim season.  There will be a complicated point system and bragging rights and usually a grand prize of some sort.  I never really understand these games, so I spend my time on the other side of the pool on my float pretending I’m alone.

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This week I need to get the swimsuits out and checked.  We always think we have what we need left from last year, then a boy goes to get dressed for the first swim and has nothing but too small shorts with stretched out elastic.  And all of us girls always need at least one new thing, which requires creativity and perseverance.  Since we don’t wear typical swim clothes and don’t have $120/person to spend, it takes time.  But we always find something.  I’m generally surprised where I find things, like for the past couple of years Costco had swim skirts that we could use!

Another changes for summer is how often I go to the big city.  During the rest of the year I will go to the city about every 2 weeks.  I like to poke around and maybe see a movie, hit Costco, Whole Foods and a few other places.  But in the summer with the crowds and school kids out in ganglike groups, I go less than once a month.  I do not enjoy a crowd therefore I avoid them at all costs.  Unless it’s at Disney World, then I just go knowing there will be 10,000 other people to deal with and I try to take crowd breaks as much as possible.

Speaking of crowds, I am gearing up for a super-exciting road trip to the Young Living International Grand Convention in June.  I love, love Salt Lake City!  I have been there several times and it’s so beautiful I can’t stand it.  But since I am going with 10,000 of my closest friends, it will be crowded, so I have to get mentally ready for it.  I use a LOT of White Angelica when I have to be in a crowded situation.  It’s what I like to call, “My Introvert Oil.”  It helps me feel a sense of safety and, oh I don’t know how else to say it except that it helps me deal with the negative energy of other people.  I love that stuff.

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This coming week we are cleaning up the yard from the storms and emptying the boys’ lockers to get the prepped for a lighter school load.  I’ll be checking swimsuit needs and doing a Coscto run for June.  Oh!  And making sure I have a poncho in every vehicle….because I enjoy being different.  And dry.

Have a good one!

Have You Hugged the Sun Lately?

Have You Hugged the Sun Lately?

Oh my stars the weather here has been amazing!  I literally just go stand outside a few times a day and hold my arms out like the sun might actually give me a hug.  I don’t worry about what the neighbors will think as the drive past me standing in my driveway like a sun worshipper; they think we’re weird anyway.  I stretch my arms out and close my eyes to just soak in the perfection, because I know that in a New York minute it will all be over and I’ll be sweltering for the next 5 months.

Spring is my favorite.  When you step out the front door the day just greets you with cheerful excitement.  Sunshine!  Birds!  Flowers!!  And I’m not even an overly cheerful person, so it must be amazing for really happy people.

The change in weather means it’s time to switch the clothes around.  I went through my closet and moved the cold weather clothes to the top where they won’t be easy to access.  And the light, breathy clothing has taken up residence in the prime spot….right in front of me when I walk in to choose an outfit.  There’s no reason for me to need the heavier items now.  I get hot when it’s 60° outside.  I won’t need a sweater again until at least November.

While my clothing needs are taken care of, I do need to find myself a new pair of sunglasses.  My current pair is about 8 years old and showing signs of wear and tear.  Actually, I have been searching for a new pair for the past couple of years.  I am too picky about this, especially since I change everything else so frequently your head would spin.  I switch purses at least every week, I like to wear different shoes each day, I try new hairstyles, new jewelry, I even got a new wedding band that I’ve been wearing for the past year just because I like a change….but my sunglasses I’ve been wearing since 2007.  I don’t even understand myself sometimes.

I don’t want a cheap pair because they slip down and really aren’t pretty.  I want pretty.  But I also refuse to pay $300 for a pair of sunglasses.  I mean, can that be right?  Of course, if you divide up the average amount of time I will likely wear them that’s actually only $3.16/month.  Hey, I like that math!

It will be a while before I have time to go sunglasses shopping again.  We stay pretty busy in the spring.  This coming weekend we have several weddings to attend, so we will be driving around from town to town for three days.  It just occurred to me yesterday that I don’t have a wedding gift for any of these couples.  I looked at their registries and nothing popped out at me so I guess it’s the old cash gift.  People like cash….just go get yourself what you want.  I may toss in a bottle of a favorite essential oil for my own enjoyment, maybe lavender or Stress Away.  In fact, if you’re looking for a great gift idea for me, that’s pretty much what I’d want, a bottle of Young Living essential oil and some cash.  There, now I’ve talked myself into the greatest wedding gift I can think of.

I read somewhere that a popular wedding gift is a KitchenAid Stand Mixer.  Say What?!  Who spends that much money on a wedding gifts?  Probably the same people buying $300 sunglasses.  I’m more of a $25 in a money shaped envelope with a funny joke in it kind of person.

I’ll toss in a sunny day hug for good measure.

Have a great weekend!

How About a Nice Hawaiian Punch?!

How About a Nice Hawaiian Punch?!

Lately I’ve been having 70s flashbacks.  My mind just rushes to the days of “The Sony and Cher Show”, Shaun Cassidy (swoon) and Love’s Baby Soft perfume.  In my youth I read Tiger Beat and ate TV dinners from metal trays, played record albums and wore bell bottom jeans with patriotic stars all over them.  Yep, those were the days.

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And the MUSIC!  I wonder how many times I listened to Elton John sing “Philadelphia Freedom.”  It has to be 1000.  I can close my eyes and go right back to sitting in my bedroom with the yellow drapes, with an enormous pair of headphones on, lifting the needle on the record player to hear that one song over and over while I stared at my Donny Osmond poster.

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I wonder what my kids will reflect on in 40 years.  Taylor Swift, earbuds, ipods, gluten-free food, cars that actually touched the ground….. “I remember when Mom had this thing called a BLOG….”

I’m not really sure why the 70s have been at the front of my mind lately, unless it’s my change in diet.  Diet changes do make me nostalgic for some reason.  Perhaps it’s because I miss the days when I could eat a Snickers bar and “smoke” an entire pack of candy cigarettes without gaining weight (don’t worry kids, smoking wasn’t bad in the 70s).  Anyway, no more of that for me….I am off of sugar, no dairy, and I quit candy cigarettes cold turkey in the early 80s.  I actually had a dream about processed foods last night.  It’s not easy to change habits that date back to 1972.  Nothing would comfort me more than a reheated piece of frozen Salisbury steak with a triangle of artificial mashed potatoes right about now.

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Sadly, I have gained some of my weight back from my big diet change a couple of years ago.  I was doing so great, cruising along, being healthy, then I hit some snags and before I knew it, I had fallen completely off the old wagon.  I let it get out of control and here I am right back to being overweight and ready for a change.

At first I felt ashamed of gaining some of the weight back.  I didn’t want to be seen and would get anxious about it before I spoke at a conference or woman’s group.  But then I thought, “Why?!  It’s something I struggle with.  Everyone struggles in some area.  This is who I am and I have nothing to be ashamed of!”  That was the end of that. #nomoreshame #nohashtagsinthe70s

For the past 10 days I have been eating clean again and this week I will be doing a cleanse.  I don’t like cleanses, but I know it’s necessary for me to clear all of the toxins and get a fresh start.  I’m just waiting for some supplements to arrive in the mail so I can get the cleanse behind me.  I am actually looking forward to it (not the cleanse so much as healthy eating again).  Making the effort to take good care of myself impacts so many areas of my life and my family.  I am nicer, I am a better mom, a better wife,  and when I show my kids that I am worth the effort then they will know that THEY are valuable too!

Maybe I should get some new posters for my bedroom to inspire me.  Instead of Donny, how about Marie?!  She’s done a great job of getting in shape and staying that way.

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And instead of Hawaiian Punch or Fresca to drink, I will be sipping plenty of water AND a cleansing drink made with water, unpasteurized apple cider vinegar and lemon….can you say “yum” boys and girls?!  And no VitaMaster cellulite machine where you strap a belt around you and shake the cellulite out (I am not kidding….they had these at gyms everywhere and I tried it more than once and you itched like crazy when it stopped!) I will actually move by walking in the mornings and doing my TTapp again.

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It’s a new day my friends, and we all can use a fresh start now and then.  I’m getting mine by dumping my junk food and making healthy choices, and of course incorporating my Young Living oils and supplements!  My apologies if you didn’t enjoy my little walk down memory lane.  If it matters, I actually do remember every single one of these things so clearly it’s like it was yesterday.  But we are changing our focus, right?! We’re gonna look to the future and make it even BETTER!

But before we leave the 70s completely, here I am in 1971.  It looks so much like my youngest!

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Thanks for stopping by!  Hop over to Facebook to continue the conversation!

Lisa on Ice

Lisa on Ice

 

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Sorry, no ice skating here.  After all, I live in South Texas.  The kind of ice I am on is more of an ice pack than an ice rink.  I hate to be a drag, but ice skating is about the last thing I could have done this past weekend, even if I lived in Canada.  Mostly because I can barely walk.

It happened Saturday morning.  My babiest girl and I were about to head out to celebrate her birthday with some mom-daughter shopping when I brilliantly decided to toss a load of laundry in the dryer before we left.  Mistake.  BIG mistake.  I mean, no one really needed those sheets and towels right then.  I just turned as I was putting the sheets in the dryer and felt a pain.  That;’s the whole story; I didn’t even get a good laugh out of it.

My daughter was standing at the front door waiting for me to finish the laundry switch when I limped past her and said I had just done something, not sure what, to my back and needed to grab some ice and some oils.  I oiled up, threw an ice pack behind me in the car, and off we went to shop ’til we dropped.  Unfortunately, I dropped immediately.  The whole getting-in-and-out-of-the-car thing became a problem.  After only an hour of shopping it became obvious that this wasn’t going away.  I had to wait in the car while she shopped.  Happy birthday to you ♫.

I texted a friend of mine, the wife of a chiropractor, and asked her what to do.  She gave me her thoughts and I followed them (once I got home).  Of course, she’s not a real chiro so I realize her advice isn’t considered treatment, just like when someone asks me for tax advice.  You should really ask my husband instead, but I might know a little bit.

“Rest as much as possible until Monday then get to the chiropractor.”  Ice, oils, rest, repeat.

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That would have been lovely if I hadn’t been scheduled to speak at a local woman’s group on Sunday afternoon.  I texted another friend, “Please pray for me….I can barely walk or stand and I have to speak tomorrow.”  She asked me if she needed to learn my speech, just in case.  It didn’t seem right to have her tell all about her CPA/attorney husband and 9 kids, so I hobbled through it, then went home and got back on the regimen.  Ice, oils, rest, repeat.

Today I am 5% better and headed to the chiro.  The good news is, I am getting a lot of writing done.  The bad news is I am having to cancel some important appointments this week.  I really, really hate cancelling commitments!

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My 4 younger boys are taking care of me, which is interesting.  Sunday afternoon I had Levi (8 years old) as my helper.  At bedtime I called him to turn the bed down for me and while he did that I got into my PJs.  It hurt to stand so I was anxious to lie down and before giving it much thought I painfully fell into bed.  Then I realized that I had forgotten to do several things, so I told Levi, “I have bad news for you, I am going to need you to do some more things for me.”

“Why is that bad news?” he asked.  “Well,” I smiled at his sweet little face, “Because I only asked you to turn down the bed, but now I need you to plug in my phone, start my diffuser and a few other things.”

“I don’t see why that’s bad news, Mommy.  It’s basically all I have been doing all day anyway, and besides, I really don’t even get what’s wrong with you.”

Oh, to be young again!

My 14 year old is my helper today and he, unlike Levi, is checking on me every 20 minutes.  He set his timer and he is taking his job very seriously.  A little too seriously.  He’s like the waiter who refills your tea every 15 minutes whether you want it or not.  I mean, I appreciate the dedication, but I am trying to get some work done here.

But don’t feel sorry for me.  By the end of the week I will be up and running again.  My boys and I will have had some quality time and I will have gotten 20 things knocked off my list of “sitting jobs.”  There’s always something good to be found in an unexpected situation!

Have a terrific week!

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Are You Ready to Make Some Life Changes?

Are You Ready to Make Some Life Changes?

I don’t know about you, but I am lagging behind lately.  It’s already March and my brain just shook out the holidays.  That also means that I generally think it’s Tuesday on Friday and even though today is Wednesday I am just getting to my normal Monday activities.

It could be partly because I have been traveling a lot, or it could be something that happens when you pass 50.  I remember my grandfather telling me every time I saw him that he couldn’t believe how quickly time was passing.  I wonder if he thought Thursdays were Tuesday.

But that’s not what I want to tell you about.  I want to share some of the lessons I learned at a seminar I attended last weekend.

I thought I was going to a marketing and business seminar, but it turned out to be so much more.  It was filled with so many great messages that I am going to have to spread it out a little.  It focused on personal growth and it was so, so convicting….in a good way!  Like when you rip off the Bandaid.  It hurts for a second then you feel better than you expected.

If I could I’d just pour out my thoughts on the whole thing, but that would turn into a book.  I’ll give you the Cliff Notes.

  1. You are responsible for your problems, not anyone else, no more excuses, you hold yourself back.

OK….OUCH!

2.  We were divided into 4 personality types and shown ways to understand and communicate with those different from us.  I want to explore this part of the lesson more since, according to what was taught, my personality type is misunderstood a lot.  It’s on me to try to communicate in ways the other 3 styles understand.  I tend to be blunt and most people receive that as me rejecting them or judging them when that’s not what I am doing at all.

3.  We as a country are teaching our kids to live in a poverty mentality.  This is the one message that I brought home and am really exploring.  I want to stop wasting time and money, start being more faithful with what I have and teach my kids to live on less.  In other words, no more fro yo.

4. You can succeed!  Anyone can.  In life, in finances, in relationships, you have more control than you think.  But you have to be willing to really make some changes and most people don’t want to do that.  They kept mention the “2%”.  The idea is that 98% of people don’t want to make the changes necessary to really make a difference in their lives.  They want comfy, easy lives so they stay stuck.  Stuck in debt, stuck in addictions, stuck.  I want to be a part of the 2% who gets free from those bonds.

So I came home all pumped and ready to make some huge changes around here.  I sat down with the kids and we had a meeting, planning ways we can cut back and stop being wasteful.  I asked them to give some thought to ways they can take charge of their own lives.  One of the boys said he knows he wastes a lot of time and he wants to change that.  Another said she was excited to save on our grocery spending.  All in all…..we are on a road to success.

Of course, it’s not going to be easy and I was tempted the first day to go back to my lazy ways.  But I didn’t.  I’m fighting my sin nature and that’s a battle I’m ready to face.  Prayer and determination….here I come.

So how about you?  Do you have a problem you’re ready to really tackle?  Even if it means facing the person in the mirror?

I’d love to hear more and hear how God is working with you.  Hop over to Facebook and continue the conversation!

Marriage Challenge

Marriage Challenge

The other night I was watching the new Duck Dynasty spinoff, “Jep & Jessa: Growing the Dynasty.”  I thought they were adorable and obviously in love, but the way she treated him was a disappointment.  Maybe it’s all for show, but I lost count of how many times she rolled her eyes when he said something and she constantly corrected him and treated him like an idiot.

I’ll admit, some of his notions were a bit….um…..exaggerated.  I assume that’s for the cameras.

Maybe her eye rolling was also overdone for show, but she has the opportunity here to model what it looks like to respect a man even though he does crazy things sometimes.  Now that would be something I would like to see…..a wife lifting up and respecting her husband.

I think that’s the thing I love most about Chip and Joanna Gaines from “Fixer Upper.”  She laughs at his silliness, but she shows respect for him and even tells him how “manly” he is occasionally.  That’s the book I want to take a page from, the one that makes my husband stronger.

Friends, I don’t mean to tear down the Robertsons.  They’re still just figuring it out, like the rest of us.  Let’s just remember, showing your husband respect is life-giving to him.  I don’t think we realize the full power of our admiration.  My guy eats it up like candy when I tell him how well he did on something or how much I admire his skills at anything, it doesn’t even have to be something big.  I could literally compliment how he walked across the yard and he would puff up and strut like a peacock.

We think they should be confident because they are so good at what they do.  My husband is beyond brilliant.  He is the smartest man I have ever known.  It surprises me sometimes when he seems insecure about anything.  I consider it my job to make sure he knows that there is someone who thinks he is incredible.  I don’t have to study psychology to know that my respect gives him super-strength.

That whole, “she does him good and not harm all the days of her life” thing.  I want to do that!

Let’s work to build up our husbands and not think of their differences as crazy or their opinions as useless.  OK, I may not be asking my hubs for decorating advice any time soon, but I could be better at listening to his ideas.  He is the head of our home, the king of our castle.  Let’s treat him as such by at least smiling when he talks and listening when he shares a thought.  We don’t have to agree to be respectful.  We can find something to admire, even if he suggests something like….oh….and this is just hypothetical….that we don’t need a new pair of shoes.

Every marriage has its challenges and every man makes mistakes.  When I feel like criticizing my husband for a mistake in judgment it only takes me a second to remember a major mess up of mine from the recent past.  I mess up our money, break things, forget stuff, lose important papers.  It would hurt me if he didn’t forgive me or held it against me.  So I don’t want to hurt him by holding his less-than-stellar ideas against him.

This is something I will probably always have to work on.  I tend to be sarcastic and dry, which comes across as disrespectful sometimes.  I am learning where to draw the line and when to back off.

So here’s a simple challenge:

  1. Find one new way each day to show your husband respect and admiration.  Be genuine, not giving false compliments.  I will bet you that the ripple effect of one new expression of admiration per day will change my and your marriage in giant ways.
  2. Pay attention to your responses when he says something you don’t agree with.  Let’s treat him the way we want him to treat us when we say something he doesn’t agree with.
  3. Set aside our own needs.  Wow, this one is hard for me.  If I’m not really careful I will fall into the trap of thinking that it’s all about me.  Let’s tell ourselves each morning when we wake up to be servants and not think we should be served all of the time.
  4. Remember what marriage is for….holiness, not happiness.

Will you join me in the challenge?!

Some Days are Just Harder

Some Days are Just Harder

I’m just gonna be real with y’all.  Last week was rough.

There’s something that happens after ministering to others; I believe it’s a spiritual attack.

Ephesians 6:12 “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

I know this battle happens to many people….the enemy gets his nasty old foot in the door if we aren’t careful.  I can’t imagine how hard it is for pastors and missionaries who do this daily.  I need to pray for them more!

The Summit is such a time of ministering to women who are tired, broken and hurting.  I prayed with at least 20 women in Oklahoma, every one more desperate for God’s answers than the one before.  My heart broke for each of them as we asked God for a miracle in their lives.

It is an honor to talk with these beautiful souls and that God would allow me to pray for them is nothing less than humbling.  I plan do it again this weekend with excitement and love.  The Summit is such a time of healing and encouragement.  I was talking with one woman on Sunday morning after it was over and she told me that this had been her first time to go.  She said, “I have thought about it for a few years but just never did it.  I never knew….I never knew what it was like….that I would experience such a breakthrough with God from being here.  I will never miss another Summit if I can help it.”

I can’t wait to be there this weekend with my Texas people and do some serious praying, learning and LAUGHING!  Last weekend I laughed so hard I almost blew tea out my nose.

But afterward, I pay for it.  I am drained and wiped out from the spiritual battles and outpouring of the Holy Spirit.  I got home late Sunday night and went to bed…..for 2 days.  I felt dragged down and depleted.  And yes, I let my armor slip.  Why do we do that?  My husband James says I let myself get too tired which contributes to me getting down.  I’m sure he’s right.  After nearly 30 years of marriage he does know me pretty well.  He’s seen the good, the bad and the very ugly.

Sometimes I don’t share this stuff on the blog because, while I want to be transparent, I also know that there are people out there who take what I say and twist it into their own ideas of me and post it on their sites saying things like, “Look! Now she is having a hard time.  Ha! Ha! She deserves it because she is so ______” (fill in the blank).  It’s sad really, that anyone would spend time taking apart someone’s words instead of adding grace and love to the world around them through their own gifts.  I really do think of it as their problem, not mine.  But some days I am just not. in. the. mood.

So, why am I even telling you all of this?  For three reasons.

  1. I want you to know that you’re not the only person who has hard days.  I have hard days sometimes and that’s OK.  You can lay low for a few days then get back up.  Give yourself a break when you’re having a rough time.  Everyone does that occasionally.
  2. I want to be honest.  I hate it when people only show the perfect side of life on their social media or blogs.  We all know that no one is perfect, but it can be comforting for someone else to say it.
  3. Because no matter how I feel, it doesn’t change who God is or His character.  I may be blue, but He is always full of joy and ready to give that to me at my first request.  When I was ready last week, I went outside and listened to some praise music.  I asked Him for joy and He gave it to me.  Like Glenda the Good Witch said, “You’ve always had the power my dear.”  Of course, it’s not really MY power but the power of the Holy Spirit.  It is always there for us!  There is always, always something to be joyful about.

I hope I haven’t been a drag here.  My joy is in the Lord and even though some days I get down or depressed, I always know that there is a way out.  Although, I am sometimes a little slow about it.  Of course, I used my oils too….they are so uplifting and when I remember, “Hey!  I should diffuse something to help me!” it brightens my mood.  (today I am diffusing lavender and geranium together and it smells lovely!).

I am doing better now and actually, even though it wasn’t the way I would have wanted, I got a lot of much needed rest.  Because I didn’t feel like going out, I was just home with my kids and we had a nice time together.  Because I spent a lot of time in my bedroom I got it really cleaned up.  I got caught up on the boys’ schoolwork and some closet organizing done.  There’s always something good that comes from even an unpleasant situation.

Lastly, I hope you will pray for me and all of the Summit team this coming weekend.  I am not the only one who comes under attack after loving on these beautiful women.  We all struggle to find our footing after such an intense time of prayer and support.  I really, really appreciate your prayers.

And if you’re still thinking of coming I hope you will!  Pray about it and ask God if you are supposed to be there.  It’s not too late to register.  Have I made it sound appealing?  LOL!  Don’t let my honesty about the struggle keep you away.  The event is a blessing and I only get down because of how much we love the women there and the power of the Holy Spirit!  It is a GOOD thing!

Thanks for “listening”.  Have a great week, my friends.  I plan to.

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