If Teasing Your Husband is Wrong I Don’t Wanna be Right

If Teasing Your Husband is Wrong I Don’t Wanna be Right

Today I have the burden of trying to think of ways to make a boring weekend sound interesting.  Because I doubt you really want to hear about my double nap on Saturday or the way we had to spend an hour trying to find a matching pair of shoes for Elijah before church.

I did get spend a couple of hours with Noah in his room on Friday afternoon discussing and planning the general Lego situation.  He has apparently caught the vision because on Saturday afternoon when I couldn’t locate three of the boys, I called up to their loft and they called down, “Yes ma’am, we are up here organizing Legos.”

Never underestimate the power of mom with a trash bag in her hand.

On Saturday I worked toward getting the house ready for spring/summer.  I like to change it up with the warming of the weather which means out with the piles of blankets and in with the vintage fans.  Even if the fans don’t work, it makes me feel cool just having them in the room.

James does not understand this concept.  But then, he also doesn’t understand why I like to just look around in a store where I am not planning to buy anything.  When we were first married he would panic when I would suggest that, just for fun, we would go look around in a furniture store.  He’d start to hyperventilate and say things like, “Um…we can’t buy any furniture Lisa.  We don’t have money for that!” to which I’d just keep walking toward the door and say, “I know that!  I just want to look at it.”  He never has completely adapted to this ritual.

I still like to play with him sometimes by telling him I want to pick up some vacation brochures or peruse the local car lots.  He never knows if I am serious and it keeps him on his toes.

I’ve been laying off the teasing for the past couple of weeks to be nice, since he’s in the throes of tax season.  But three more days baby, and I will be back to my normal behavior.  I can’t keep up that kind of niceness for much longer.

Now that we are days away from the end of another tax season AND the Legos are getting cleaned up, I may have to do some mock shopping to celebrate.  It’s the only reasonable thing to do.

5 Thoughts That Really Help When Marriage Gets Difficult

5 Thoughts That Really Help When Marriage Gets Difficult

No marriage is perfect.  This is by a woman with a happy marriage but still willing to admit that it's not always easy! -- The Pennington Point

As tax season rolls along I get lonely.  And sad.  It’s true….9 kids and a home business, but sometimes I feel lonely for my husband and I want him to stop working and give me some attention.

As wives we all have something that makes our marriage a challenge.  If he doesn’t work too much then maybe he doesn’t work enough, or manage the kids like you think he should or even simple things like sloppiness or picky eating can be hard on a wife.

No matter what imperfections your husband has, God gave him to you and wants you to learn and grow through your struggles.  I’m not excusing your husband’s flaws, but this is not about him.  This is about us.

From the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas, “But what if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy . . . but holy? And what if your relationship isn’t as much about you and your spouse as it is about you and God?”

For me every tax season is an opportunity to turn to God to meet my need for attention and affection.  AND I learn more and more every year better ways to sacrifice my need for my husband’s.  It ain’t easy, sister.  But the riches that go along with these lessons are immeasurable!

Maybe you’re one of those amazing wives who will say that pleasing her husband is her life’s mission and nothing satisfies her more.  I admire those women so much.  But I am not one of them.  My flesh wants to fulfill its own desires and be petted.  Sad but true.  I like getting my way.

And God knows that! I know because 2 Timothy 3:2-4 is a whole list of selfish struggles and since I can see myself in so many of them, I know God understands!  It is only through God’s grace and mercy that we are able to overcome these issues.  Being in His Word shows me clearly that God is ready to help me through my hard times in everything….even the tiny problem of wishing my husband were more available.

Here are 5 thoughts that help me find peace when marriage gets difficult:

1. We must not seek satisfaction in anything but God. 
Sometimes I wonder if I would have the deep relationship with my Lord if I had an easier life.  My trials bring me closer to Him and allow me to see the eternal joy that He wants to give me.
Psalm 16:11b you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand”

2. We are responsible for our actions, not our husband’s.
I don’t have to answer for what my husband does.  But I do have to account for my own actions, so it is important to behave and respond with loving kindness even if he doesn’t deserve it.  I sure wouldn’t want him constantly trying to change me, so why would I do that to him.  And besides, only God can change hearts.
Psalm 26:2 “Test me, Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind.

3. There is peace even in unpeaceful conditions.
It’s so much more about where our focus is than our circumstances.  I notice that when I am doing my morning run if I think about my legs and how tired they are then I constantly want to quit.  But if I think about what is up ahead, even imagining God with His arms open waiting for me, the running is much easier.  I’m still running the same path, no circumstances have changed.  But when my focus changes the task becomes lighter and joyful.  It’s the same with marriage.  What we focus on can make or break our attitude.
Philippians 3: 14 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

4. You’re not so perfect either.
It’s true.  I’m no picnic to be married to.  The things that are important to him are not my strong suits.  He likes orderly receipts and spreadsheets and our finances to be all neat and tidy.  This is not something I am good at and it probably looks to him like I don’t care about it.  I need his understanding in these areas and I should be willing to give him the same when he doesn’t seem to appreciate my desire to discuss my ideas about home decorating.
Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…”

5. It is your behavior that can win over your husband.
Seeing your grace and humility may be just what your husband needs so that he may seek righteousness for his own life.  Even though this verse refers to unsaved husbands, it cannot be denied that being forgiven has a deep impact on our husbands.  When I forgive him for hurting me or inconveniencing me, it leaves room for the Holy Spirit to touch his heart and do a good work.  That’s not even mentioning the impact your behavior has on your children….the influence you have as a woman is far reaching.
1 Peter 3:1-2 if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”

This tax season I have learned to be more patient.  God has given me the husband I needed to sharpen my weak areas and as much as that hurts sometimes, I can feel myself becoming the woman I really want to be.  One who is willing to be selfless and caring even when it isn’t deserved.

Let’s build one another up and encourage each other to look to God for our support and strength.  I’m excited to see what God can do with a group of women who are willing to set their needs aside for the husband and let God fill in the gaps.

Women encouraging women

I Simply Can’t Stick to One Subject

I Simply Can’t Stick to One Subject

Well friends, I have officially reached code red status of exhaustion.  As much as I love to travel, it wears me out and takes me a week to recover from.  Add that to the time change recovery period and we’re talkin’ deep sleep deprivement that only a cruise or quiet beach house would cure.

I thought about trying to take a three day nap, but my life of homeschooling and OCD house cleaning doesn’t lend itself to being asleep for days at a time.  I wonder what would happen if I just closed my door and fell asleep at odd hours.  Would my children survive?  If they did, would I survive the state of the house afterward?  Would I have to notify everyone or could I just disappear?  These are the questions I ask myself in my sleepy stupor.

Last Wednesday I was just home from a quick trip to California and spent the day catching up with the kids.  I went though their school work and played games with them and generally laid on the couch while they told me stuff that was in their head.  I learned that Elijah has decided not to become a grocery store manager and now he is planning to become a hurricane chaser.  Boy, you leave for three days and all kinds of changes happen!

On Thursday I went to the city with my 2 best friends for a fabulous evening of eating on the Riverwalk and seeing “Wicked.”  No kidding…this play was so amazing I just sat there glued to every word.  I used to wish for a trip to Hawaii but I am now dreaming of a trip to New York so I can go see more of these incredible works of art and talent.  My dreams change frequently.  Wait.  I am starting to understand Elijah a little better.

Then as if all of that wasn’t enough, I went on Friday to see the new Muppet movie, which I have been waiting for since forever!  Even though I was worn out, I wouldn’t be able to call myself a true Muppet fanatic if I didn’t see their new movie on opening day.  It was so cute….I loved it.  But I’m not objective since I have a huge crush on Kermit.  He’s my kinda frog.

I took my daughter, Hope, with me to see the movie and we talked and talked and had such a good time with just the 2 of us.  I want to bottle her up and keep her in the closet ‘cuz she’s so sweet.  More impossible dreams.

We spent the weekend filling Shop24 orders and trying to stay healthy since several of the kids were getting a cold.  I kept putting essential oils all over everyone and they’re feeling better this morning.  What would I do without my Thieves?!  And lemon…oh and peppermint….I could go on and on….

This week I am getting ready to do a 5K on Sunday.  I wish I could say that I did an intense Couch to 5K training, but I really haven’t prepared.  I am doing it with my sister, so I have warned her that I will be slow and she is welcome to run ahead of me.  I doubt that 5 days of preparation will really help much.

I’m off to try my idea of disappearing and randomly falling asleep.  I’m hoping to get down to a code orange by tomorrow.

Have a great week!

Californy Here I Come

Californy Here I Come

Well,  I’m in California today so it’s gonna be hard to think of anything to say because my recliner is my writing partner and we are missing each other.

I flew out here over the weekend to attend a meeting.  I am a jet setter, didn’t I tell you that?  Yep.  I’m sure it was obvious to the airport security people when they saw my suitcase with one wheel broken that I was dragging behind me.  It’s the small things that can make or break your airport travel experience.

The Pennington Point

I’m also a mild germophobe with that perfect touch of clumsy, making me ideal to be behind in the airport security line.  Shoes off, dirty airport floor, people pushing behind me, it’s the perfect storm.  You don’t need the whole story.  Just believe me when I tell you I understand what it’s like now to be the first domino in a line.

I also don’t care for sitting shoulder to shoulder on a plane with a stranger that is coughing for three hours.  But I’m not one to complain so I just popped in my earbuds and spritzed a little Thieves in his general direction.

Since I’m gone, I thought I’d share an older post that you may have missed if you’re new here.  Sadly, it is one of my most read posts of all time.  It’s about the time my skirt fell off in the parking lot of Bed, Bath & Beyond.  Yes, really.

Enjoy your week!  Wear something green for me!

This May Not Be My Best Week

This May Not Be My Best Week

I have something I need to get off my chest.

Daylight Savings Time.  Seriously.  Why must we endure this torture?

I do not adjust well to change.  So as you may imagine, Sunday was a long day for me (therefore it was a long day for my family).  I could barely crawl out of bed in the morning.  It was tempting to get that extra sleep instead of walking, but I am determined to get a workout in every morning and I knew I would really be disappointed in myself if I didn’t.  So I arose an hour earlier than I am used to and walked and did my TTapp.

As soon as we got home from church I fell into a deep sleep.  I didn’t even warn the kids.  I just dropped onto my bed and I slept for two whole hours.  It was the deepest nap I’ve had since 1997.

True story.

One day in 1997 after my fifth child was born and I had gone without sleep for two weeks, I was a walking zombie, my mom stopped by my house.  Her plan was just to say hello, see the baby and get back to her job.  But I was so sleep deprived that I handed her the baby and said, “I have to take a nap.”  I never heard her trying to tell me that she had an appointment.  I just walked away…..straight to my bedroom and closed the door and left her with a newborn, a 14 month old, 3 year old, 5 year old and 7 year old.

Even though this may not sound unusual, I seriously think I would have done the same thing to anyone who had the misfortune of knocking on my door that day.  Hello mailman, thanks for the package, here’s my baby, I’m taking a nap.

Four hours later (but it seemed like seconds) I awoke to my mom shaking me.  She had to leave, the baby needed to eat and I had no idea where I was or what was happening.  Baby?  What baby?

Sunday’s nap was like that.  But without the part where I woke up being soaked in milk.

I am hoping not to take my typical 10 days to recover from the time change.  I don’t do well with these kinds of shifts to my sleep schedule.

In other news, I got a lot of work done on my book this weekend.  It’s been a long process since I never have more than 12.5 minutes at a time to work on it.  I have tried to convince James to send me on a cruise so I can get all of my writing done on the lido deck, but he isn’t falling for it.  He’s probably right.  There is the slightest possibility that instead of writing I would spend the whole time asleep in a lounge chair holding onto a tall cup with a tiny umbrella in it.

This coming week some of us will be at the Christian Worldview Film Festival.  There’s still time to get your tickets!  Or just show up….it’s gonna be a great opportunity to be around other families who are interested in wholesome, meaningful entertainment.

If you go and want to find me, I will be the woman dragging myself along yawning.  Or if it’s later in the afternoon, I may be in the car getting a little post-daylight-savings-time shuteye.

This may not be my best week, but I’ll do my best given the difficult circumstances.

How I am Changing from Fred to Wilma

How I am Changing from Fred to Wilma

Everywhere I go people look at me with surprise because of my weight loss.  I have had several people, who I know pretty well, not recognize me since I lost weight.

It cracks me up because while I know I look different, I’m still just little ol’ me inside.  I actually forget about it until someone comments.

While I still have quite a bit of weight left to lose, I am starting to work on my shape.  I am still large around the midsection.  I guess having babies did that to me.  So I blame the children.  I will point to my stomach and say, “See this?  You did this.” while talking to my 10 year old son.  He loves it.  Makes his day complete.

I’d like to be shaped less like Fred Flintsone…..

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And more like Wilma….

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And it’s happening!  Wanna know how?  I’m doing T-Tapp!  It’s a 15 minute workout DVD that I have been doing 3X a week and I can’t believe how much my shape is changing.

What I have is the Basic Workout Plus DVD.  I already had this in my cabinet, waayyyy in the back, when Charlotte Siems reminded me of it while we were hanging out at the Homeschool Moms’ Winter Summit.  She is my new best friend by the way, although she isn’t completely aware of this occurrence.  It may be more of a friendly-stalker situation.  Tomato-tomahto.  You really should read her testimony, it’s inspiring!

I really think T-Tapp is good for anyone no matter where you are on your health journey or what your limitations are.  The testimonies on the video are amazing.  It opens up the spine and helps your core.  (technical words make me sound so informed)  And you never have to get on the floor or bounce around.  I am surprised every time how good I feel afterward.

And don’t forget your Lift Caps!  They have made so much difference in getting me up and going every morning!

How I changed my body shape though an easy 15 minute workout!  -- The Pennington Point

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I Finally Found My Superpower

I Finally Found My Superpower

I may have accidentally discovered my superpower this weekend…..doing 12 things at once and still not having anything to show for it.  Maybe all of those colored tights I love will come in handy!

This past weekend was filled to the brim with activity, yet I can’t think of anything to talk about.  It’s a contrast to my usual riveting report of weekend adventures of house cleaning and excessive napping.

On Friday I spent the whole day celebrating love and avoiding candy.  Before I went on my early morning walk I left piles of goodies at each child’s place at the dining room table complete with teeny boxes of Nerds that were supposed to be stuck through a little card with playful Valentine’s Day saying on them.  The Nerds and cards were sold together with pictures on the package of the little box adorably slid through a pre-punched slit in the card.  Cute, right?  Um, no.  I ripped so many of those dumb cards trying to force the box of Nerds through that I ended up leaving 9 ripped cards loosely wrapped around the candy boxes.  I eventually had to walk away.  This, my friends, is not my superpower.

On Saturday I worked on Shop24 orders then in the afternoon I had a funeral to go to.  My friend Sara lost her precious mother-in-law and it was a sad day.  After I got home Adam was waiting for me at the door, “Want to go for a bike ride with me?!”  Despite being worn out, I couldn’t say no to that hopeful little face, so I hopped on my bike and we rode for a while.

He talked all about his ideas for making a bike track in our field and maybe could he go fishing sometime and he wondered if there were any family members in our genealogy that liked biking or fishing.  I just rode and listened and thought about how much I love him.  Tired-schmired.  It was fun.

Sunday was my big party at Michael’s.  Several friends stopped by and we had a blast chatting and doing chalkboard lettering.  Crafting with other women is so inspiring.  Thanks Faith, Colleen, Stacy, Jenn and Sara for being my special guests!

This week is another opportunity to use my powers of getting 12 things done at one time.  James is preparing to take the Bar Exam next week which puts my loving-wife skills to the test.  I will be sliding trays of food under his office door and diffusing essential oils in his office to help him magically absorb law facts and hold them in his brain.

Yes, now you know the whole truth.  He is the one in our family with super powers.  I just bounce around his awesomeness.

Have a great week!

Kind-of-Cleaning

Kind-of-Cleaning

Time sure is flying past….February 10….really?!

You’d think I could wrap my mind around the weekend being over since I stayed home the almost whole time and did pretty much nothing.  But no, I am still shocked that it’s Monday, February 10, 2014.  Truth be told, I am still stuck somewhere in 2003.

All day Friday and Saturday we kind of cleaned the house and filled Shop24 orders.  When I say “kind of clean” that’s what I call surface-not-really-clean-but it-will-fool-anyone-who-stops-by kind of cleaning.

At some point on Saturday I decided enough was enough with my bedroom/dumping ground so I planted myself in there and started going through everything that was sitting out.  You see, my TV died a while ago so I bought a new one last week and that turned into a major undertaking.  It was a different size than the old one, so furniture had to be moved and drawers had to be emptied and basically my bedroom looked like a nuclear explosion.

I could no longer handle the mess.  It was stuff from drawers that I hadn’t even looked at for years, but for some reason felt the need to pick through it all.  Papers and extinct cords and old notes from friends.  After a 3 hour junk drawer intervention with myself I had whittled it down to a fraction of what I started with.  Three points for me!

I predict my bedroom will stay clean for one and a half days.

This morning I am heading to a local MOPS group to talk with them about natural health and essential oils.  And of course, my beloved Lift Caps which makes me so happy I can’t tell you.  I love telling other moms about the Lift Caps since they have helped me so much in my health/weight loss journey.

The rest of this week is full.  One of the kids has a birthday, I’m getting my hair colored, grocery shopping, orthodontist, visits with friends and a funeral.  I hope to get some homeschooling done in between appointments.

I am aware that Valentine’s Day is in there too, but I’m ignoring it because my husband is taking the Bar Exam in 2 weeks and I think he forgot that he is married.  I have decided to give him some slack on this since I am afraid that if I mention it his brain might explode.

I’m just that kind of wife.  OK, actually I am not.  I am usually more high maintenance than that, but I can be a big girl just this once.

But just once.  Have a great week.

Moonwalking in Macy’s

Moonwalking in Macy’s

What do you get when you put 4 young women and a mom together with a mall and half a day of nothing to do?

Right.  That’s exactly what I got last Friday.

My girls got wind of some sales going on and asked me if we could go into the city and do some shopping.  I couldn’t say no since they worked their tails off for me the 2 previous weekends for the Homeschool Moms’ Winter Summit.  So off we went into the world of retail and elevator music.

Speaking of music, in Macy’s they were playing 80′s rock and that can only mean one thing.  Momma’s gonna dance.  I can’t help it.  One bar of Michael Jackson’s “Beat It” makes me start moon walking and grabbing my pretend fedora.  I got moves and I can’t hold them in.

My girls have mixed feelings about me trying to break dance in public.  It’s not pretty.

While I was there I picked up a couple of things on the clearance racks.  Oh, and I must tell you that if you’re looking for pretty, long skirts now is the time!  They are everywhere.  The key to having a good wardrobe that’s modest is to buy it when you see it and you will find plenty out there right now.  Rush to the mall and pick up yourself something nice.  Tell your husband I told you to.

On Saturday we filled shop orders and generally poked around at cleaning the house and putting away piles of random things that had accumulated since we recovered from the Great Flu of 2013.  There was a mound in a corner of the living room containing donation clothes, a can of paint, some playing cards and a CD that I have been looking for.  How does this happen?  I haven’t even bought paint recently or painted anything.  Where did the can come from?  And where are the rest of the playing cards?

I’m a thinker.  A thinker and a pile maker.  And a break dancer.

Sunday was looking to be a normal go-to-church-come-home kind of day until our big van wouldn’t work.  In order to get all 11 of us where we need to be, we have to have all vehicles in full running order.  So I skipped my morning walk and drove Jacob to his church (he attends a different church…long story) and then came back to pick up the home crew and we took 2 cars to church, then afterward swung back through town to pick up Jacob.  What did I learn from all of this carting people around you ask?  I learned to take the big van to the mechanic first thing Monday morning, that’s what.

Besides my extreme driving experience it was an uneventful day.  Mostly filled with naps and some afternoon cold temps (which is getting old….this is Texas….home of warm weather).

Have a great week.

10 Things I Can Do Since I Have Lost 75 Pounds

10 Things I Can Do Since I Have Lost 75 Pounds

January is wrapping up and I notice people falling away from their New Year’s Resolutions.  It’s the natural course of life….make a resolution, hit it hard for about 3 days then spend the rest of January wondering how you will make it through the rest of the year without guilt.

It’s very similar to Monday, when we all say we are going to start our diet.  Eat all you can on Sunday because come Monday the diet starts, as if it’s got magical powers.  Wouldn’t that me nice, magi Monday? The truth is, no matter when you change your life, it’s just God and plain old determination that will carry you to the finish line.

(what is it about a sports metaphor that makes me feel like I can do anything?)

And so I decided to change my life one Thursday last summer.  No fanfare or Facebook frenzy.  I just put down the french fries and never looked back.

No more diet soda, no more cookies, no more mac ‘n cheese.  I could write a sad, I-miss-my-baby, kind of country song about it.  Except I don’t really miss it all that much.  I know.  It surprises me too.

And I surely don’t miss having my stomach in my way when I need to pick something up off the floor or not being able to go up a flight of stairs.  In fact, I made a list of things I can now do that I couldn’t do then.

1. Cross my legs
2. Wear clothes from the regular section of the store
3. Wear a belt
4. Run 2 miles
5. Keep up with my kids’ activities
6. See the sunrise every morning (which is about my exercise of course, not really the weight)
7. Be glad to have my picture taken
8. Not feel guilty because I don’t take care of myself
9. Ride roller coasters (although I haven’t tested this one yet)
10. Bless others with my journey

Since last July I have lost 75 pounds.  No one is more shocked than I am that this has happened. It felt impossible, but here I am.  And I am telling you YOU CAN DO IT TOO!!!

And it’s not even Monday.

Here are a few of my posts on my journey:

Join Me in my Journey Toward Great Health!

How These Supplements Have Changed my Life

A Day in the Life with my Oils

Great Christian Workout Playlist

I Lost 60 Pounds…Here’s my Secret

Getting Healthy…You Already Have What You Need

I’m Halfway There

Lessons from Lisa: Don’t Take Off Your Shirt in the Middle of the Street

I’m Getting my Sparkle Back

More About What I Am Eating

Let’s Get Fit Together

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