Oldies but Goodies

Oldies but Goodies

This week I am locked away working on my next book.  It turns out that I write better when I don’t have to do 8 loads of laundry a day or have to grade a dozen math papers.  So I have gone into hiding for a few days to get the first draft finished.  I’ll be back next week, but while I am away I thought I’d remind you of a few older projects in case you’re in the mood for something fun to do.

  1. We just finished moving kids’ bedroom around and the boy’s Lego shelves are being overhauled.  I thought I’d show you these giant Legos I made a few years ago that we put on the shelves to add a bit of a break from the bright colors and plastic.

    How to make a fun extra for the kids room.  Lego decorating.

  2. Also last week I was adding some pumpkins to the front porch and I was enjoying the fun of my painted houndstooth rug and I thought I’d share it with you in case you want to paint one for yourself! 

    How to paint a houndstooth rug! -- The Pennington Point

  3. The last big thing we worked on last weekend was cleaning out the kids’ school lockers.  Several years ago I found these old lockers at a flea market and because they were bright yellow the price was low.  No one wanted yellow lockers!  But a few cans of white spray paint later and they were perfect in my living room.  My school kids actually keep their school books in there and the extra lockers hold Wii games and extra school books.

I am always up to a something around the house and I am hoping to do some new arranging over the next few weeks in the living areas.  But don’t tell James.  I like to surprise him.

Be sure to stop by your favorite bookseller and pick up my book “Mama Needs a Do-Over” if you haven’t already!
Have a great week!  Happy fall!
Do You Need a Do-Over?

Do You Need a Do-Over?

This is a great book for moms who need a boost of encouragement to find their joy again!

Well this is the week….my book, Mama Needs a Do-Over, comes out in stores and I am more than a little nervous.

Isn’t it funny how when our vision becomes reality we tend to see only the possible things that can go wrong or be negative?  Or is that just me?  Maybe when you have a dream come true you just think about how wonderful your life is.  I lean the other way….to the dark side.

Darth Vader has nothing on me when it comes to seeing the negative and being kind of a downer to the people around him.  I know why God didn’t give me a light saber.  Or a black helmet.

OK, I see that I have gotten a little off path with this post which is supposed to be a joy-filled sharing of the book release.

This book has been a year and a half of work and through the process my life did some pretty big flips and flops.  Mostly flops.  I know for a fact that God isn’t going to let me get too comfy and He keeps me on the edge of my seat most of the time.  I have never been a person with a big cushion to lean on.  We don’t have a savings account or family we can depend on or even an air-conditioner that works faithfully (you would think that those first two would be what I panic over the most, but really you don’t even want to know what kind of evil overtakes me if I get over-heated).  Every day is a walk of faith, trusting Him to see us through as we learn more and more about His character.

And this book has been no exception.  It was as if He whispered to me, “You’re not going to write this book, I am,” and He proceeded to remove every confidence and thing I really trusted.  Bit by bit He tore my life down to one thing, Him.

And so I wrote.  And I poured out my heart and cried then laughed (before we get too deep…the book is actually funny ‘cuz I can’t write any other way) then pounded my fists against the keyboard and prayed.  He kept coming through for me.  One chapter at a time.

And now it’s out of my hands and into His again.

Recently I was watching the movie Facing the Giants and in the very end a small kicker (if you haven’t seen it, it’s a faith-filled football movie) says to the coach, “I can’t do it….I can’t kick that far!” in the final seconds of the game.  And the coach tells him, “Son, it’s your job to do your best and kick as hard as you can and then let God do the rest.”

And that’s how I feel today.  I am kicking my book out there and letting God do the rest.  May it bless you!  May it speak His words to your heart.  May you buy 3 extras to give to your friends as gifts.  😉


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76 Trombones and a Universal Weekend

76 Trombones and a Universal Weekend

Yesterday I somehow got the song, “76 Trombones” stuck in my head and now I am going to have to find myself a support group for people who are tortured by Broadway.  Add to it the fact that I only know the first 2 lines and after that I go into a mumbling sort of hum that makes my brain try to reach back into 4th grade when I may or may not have actually known the words.

And that, my friends, pretty much sums up the way my brain works.  All day everyday.  A song pops into my head for no particular reason, I can’t stop humming it until I am singing it at the top of my lungs around the house except with the wrong words.

This will be SO.MUCH.FUN for the 65 new friends plus their families that get to spend the weekend with me over Labor Day.  Some of my kids and I are heading to Orlando next week where we get to build memories and enjoy meeting some super-cool people.

We’ll be attending the Family Forward Universal Orlando Adventure and it will be a blast!  I know we will have a great time not because of the inevitable rain leftover from Hurricane Erika or the plethora of other Broadway melodies swimming around in my head, but because it is sponsored by some companies that will bring the beauty out of any moment!

This brilliant event is intended to bring bloggers together WITH their families and focuses on not only fun, but working as a team and doing community service.  I can’t wait to see all we will learn together about the Children’s Miracle Network and how to really make the most of our families’ service to others.


Second, we will be staying at…..wait for it….the gorgeous Loews Royal Pacific Resort where I will not only be enjoying the beautiful views, but I may just make the visit complete for other fellow exercisers in the fitness center as I uncontrollably hum songs from The Music Man while on the treadmill.  You’re welcome Loews guests.

My kids will be so proud.

And ashamed.

Which is possibly going to be my favorite part of the whole trip.

We are excited about visiting Universal Studios and seeing what they’ve got going on.  I have been doing my research (aka Pinterest) and learning about Beer Butter and the need for ponchos and how to manage the ride lines.  Of course I have already planned what essential oils to have onhand and how to keep my big thighs from causing a heap o’trouble (which let’s face it, happens when you’re a big girl doing a lot of walking in a humid environment).

And with 4 of the kids going along, we have planned the whole budget for the trip and each of us knows the entire agenda from the moment we leave for the airport until we pull back in the driveway 6 days later.  Sometimes I like to surprise the kids with things when we travel, but this time I thought they would enjoy it more if they got to make most of their own decisions and have control over their spending.  For the few meals that are not provided with the event, I gave them each a budget.  They can spend it any way they want.  And they worked last weekend rebuilding our back deck to earn money for any extras or souvenirs.

My goal for this time we are spending together is to let them make their own decisions, learn, meet new people and oh yes…..do a few promotions for my book, Mama Needs a Do-Over: Simple Steps to Turning a Hard Day Around, which is being released the day before we go!  Be sure to order your copy!

And if you have any great Universal Studios tips head over to my Facebook page and continue the conversation.

Lastly, please accept my apology for sticking “76 Trombones” in your brain.  Hopefully the adorable Ronnie Howard image from the movie below makes up for the annoying wordless song.

Ain't he cute?!

What’s Your Irrational Fear?

What’s Your Irrational Fear?

James goes out of town each August and it seems like every time something happens.  Last year the A/C went out, the year before that we sprung a leak under the sink.  This year, however, takes the cake.


It happened yesterday morning.  Every day I get out of bed at 6:30, usually groggy and half asleep, and I shuffle into the bathroom, go potty, put on my oils and change clothes for my morning workout.  Well yesterday for some reason I don’t remember, I got undressed first THEN went to the potty.  That is important to the story….you’ll see in a sec.

I was sitting there paying no attention to anything, I don’t even think my eyes were open, when I heard a shuffle and opened my eyes to see a…..I can’t say the word…..starts with M and rhymes with house…..come running out of my shower, rustling the shower curtain, and into the sink area of the bathroom.  Yes.  It was about 8″ from my bare feet.

Scream is not a big enough word for what I did.

Let’s see, how can I describe it?  It was more like a shriek-screech-panic-freakout (“s-s-p-f” for short)

I jumped up from the potty and took off, through the bedroom and down the hallway yelling for a kid to come help me and flipping on lights as I ran.  Just as one of the kids called out from their bed to ask what was going on I realized that I was stark naked.  As a jaybird.

I kind of figured that having your mom screaming through the house when you’re sound asleep is damaging enough without having to see her naked body.  I mean, is it actually possible to scrub your eyeballs?

So while continuing the “s-s-p-f,” I grabbed a blanket to wrap around myself.  The kids started sleepily wandering out of their rooms to see what was happening.  My daughter, who isn’t the least bit scared of the you-know-what, offered to check my bathroom.  She looked all around with a flashlight then declared the room clear.  So using my daughter as a shield, I went back in my bathroom and quickly got dressed.  Then I doused myself in essential oils so I could calm down enough to tie my shoes.

“I’m going for my walk,” I told her in what was mostly a whiny, crying voice, “Do you think you and your brother could try to catch it while I’m gone?”

She agreed to try and actually (and this is where, if she hadn’t been born at home I might have wondered if she had been switched at birth) seemed kind of excited by the challenge.

I got in a good run, adrenaline will do that to you, I couldn’t have walked slowly if I’d wanted to.  Then when I got home I sat down on the front porch and texted inside the house.

“Well?  Is it safe to come in?  I’m scared.”

She let me know that it was completely safe and the you-know-what had been caught and disposed of.

Turns out she had seen it run into another bedroom and let one of our barn cats in there.  Voila!  Problem solved.  One of my girlfriends suggested offering the cat a can of salmon as a reward, but I felt like an hour in the air-conditioning and a you-know-what to play with was reward enough.

The rest of the day I was so jumpy I actually got spooked when a feather blew in front of my leg while I was standing in the backyard.  Every time our new puppy came into the room where I was I’d do a mini “s-s-p-f” again.  My nerves are shot.

I’m not sure how I will make it through the rest of the weekend knowing sometimes these things have friends and family and maybe this was just the frontman of the operation.  I did put every diffuser I own to work, including setting one on the floor of the hallway.  I read that you-know-whats hate peppermint and ravintsara, so I have them diffusing in every room.  I’d douse myself in them if I could.


I mentioned my extreme fear on Facebook and asked what other people’s irrational fears were and many of them said the same as mine, but there were also a lot of folks terrified of spiders, snakes and roaches.  Yep, these are my people.

Now that I have slept for an entire night after the trauma, I think I may actually survive.  But I will confess to standing on my potty this morning tossing empty vitamin bottles into the shower to spook any other little friends out.  After about 5 minutes of nothing happening except for my discovering that I keep way too many empty bottles, I went about my morning normally.  Still shaken, but normal.

And I am planning on an uneventful weekend.

Unless….of course…..a feather drifts past me again.


Sharing a Moment

Sharing a Moment

Well friends, this past Tuesday I had one of those once in a lifetime moments.  The kind that you will always remember because it is the culmination of a lifelong dream.

I went to lunch with my daughter (we had a sweet time!) and when we arrived back home there were 4 big boxes waiting for me.  I knew immediately what was inside of them….MY BOOK.  For the first time I was going to get to hold the real deal in my little hands.

I almost cried the ugly cry.

The only thing that held me back from excessive tears was that my entire family (aka: whoever happened to be home at the time ‘cuz I wasn’t going to wait) was standing around me as I pulled the tape off of the first box labeled David C Cook.  My publisher.  Everyone gave me room to just experience the moment as I lifted one out of the box.


What looked like a simple moment on the outside was really years and years of dreams and work and watching God do miraculous things in my life and the life of my family.

Since I was a little girl I wanted to write a book, or two or ten.  It was something I was supposed to do, but how on earth does a plain old girl from Texas get a book deal?  I knew God put the dream in me, but I had NO idea HOW He would pull it off.

So I kept honing my craft and continued stepping down each section of path that God lit up for me along the way.  But I could never see the end of that path, or even two steps ahead, it was one step at a time.   It was a lot of waiting and wondering and “this may never happen” moments.

But it did happen.  God moved in amazing ways and one by one the pieces fell into place.  I’d meet someone, who led me to the next step, which gave me another idea and so on.  Each piece of the story is such a God-thing.  How I met my incredible agent is a great story I need to tell you someday.  The other author friends He gave me….unbelievable.  How He provided a beautiful place for me to really dig in and write….I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t lived it.

All leading to this…..


The proof of how excited I was shows in the fact that I didn’t even stop to brush my hair or put on lipstick.  Please just look at the book and don’t focus on how sweaty I was.  It was 107° and I had been outside all morning.  Let’s just be glad that my eyebrows are still there.

And this is an even better picture….


Ham alert on the left

These people have my heart.  They have stuck with me through more failures and mix ups and messes than I care to think about.  This is my cheering section.  And I am theirs.

In fact, several of the kids took a book to their room and started reading it.  That actually never occurred to me….that they would read a book written for moms.  Even Levi got in on the action.  I walked into the living room and found this…


I held back a laugh as I asked him, “Well, how do you like it so far?”  He gave me a serious look and replied, “Well, I’m only on chapter 2, but I’ve learned a lot about being who God made you to be and a little about why you’re so tired.”

I’m calling it.  Best book review I’ll ever get.

The book will be released on September 1, but you can pre-order it now.  In fact, it would be awesomeness if you would go ahead and pre-order because that gives Amazon (or wherever you like to buy) the illusion that I am someone worth paying attention to and they will give it a higher rank-something-or-other that I don’t really understand.

Check out my book page for more details and a link to my 7-day reading plan.

I want to thank you all for your incredible support also!  It’s been a long road and you’ve been a source of strength for me.  I just adore ya!


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Fun at Convention!

Fun at Convention!

This week I am at the Young Living International Grand Convention.  I’ve got some of my kids with me and we are having a grand time!  I can’t wait to fill you in on all of the newest products and exciting happenings.  It’s like a lifestyle boost, information overload and reunion all rolled into one.

One of the things that I did to let my team members that came to convention know how glad I am that they are here was make them each a “Convention Survival Pack”.  I thought I’d share so you can get ideas if you’re ever working with a team of amazing people like I am!

My goal was to give them some things to make their week a little brighter and easier.  This event has 6,000 people in attendance so it’s not exactly leisurely.  Long lines are everywhere….at the food counters, the drink stations, every vendor….wowsa.

Instead of filling each bag before we left, I put everything in a box  and waited until we got into our hotel room.  Then I put them together.  I printed out their names and stapled them onto each bag before we left (otherwise my forgetful brain wouldn’t know who I had already given a bag to!).


I wrote notes of encouragement with a few helpful bits of information, rolled them up and slipped them into a tube that our oils come in when they’re shipped.  I thought that would be a fun way to get a note.  I tied a jute bow around each one.


Here’s a what I put in each bag:

Tic Tacs
Water bottle
My favorite pen
Chocolate (duh!)
Protein bar (not pictured)
Tide stain pen
Goldfish crackers
Ziploc bags (they come in handy!)
NingXia Red
NingXia Nitro
A Chick-fil-A gift card (I wanted to buy them a meal)
My favorite travel helper (Levi calls it my “potion”)

The “potion” is just coconut oil and a few drops of frankincense that I mixed together and put in these tiny tubs.  I added a little card to show how I use it.


I hope they feel the love when they use the stuff I gave them!  I adore these people!!!

And you can come be a part of my team too….I’d sure love to have you.  We are super supportive and helpful.  Even if you’re just using the oils for yourself and not doing it as a business you’ll get plenty of support.

This month I am sending one of my handmade essential oil shelves to each new member who joins with a Premium Kit.  It’s a great way to start your journey with essential oils and better health.  You get 11 oils and a diffuser and I send you the shelf plus some extra goodies!


Let me know if you have any questions!


Come with Us to the Forge Conference!

Come with Us to the Forge Conference!

What are you and your family up to September 10-12, 2015?!

‘Cuz if you’re not busy, I hope you will come join us at the Forge Conference!  This event is for the entire family!  It’s a beautiful, loving gathering of like-minded people who want to learn to be better parents, leaders and this year’s theme….how to love one another!

Really, you will adore this group of people.  This will be our third year to attend and I wouldn’t miss it.  The keynotes are Kevin Swanson, Scott Brown and RC Sproul Jr.  This is a powerhouse lineup that the men in your family will especially be uplifted by.

Its really affordable too….check out their website for more info.

Come to this fantastic conference in September for families who want to lean more about how to love one another!

AND….drumroll….I am going to host a luncheon during the conference just for the ladies.  I am super excited about this!!!  I will share from my new book, “Mama Needs a Do-Over” and we will have fun prizes and food and of course, chocolate!  It will be a time of encouragement and fellowship.

An encouraging ladies' luncheon that will leave you uplifted!

This event is for adult women only (and nursing babies).  The cost is $10 which includes all of your food and fun.

Click HERE to learn how to sign up!!!!

If you have questions about Forge head over to their Facebook page and ask.  They are very helpful.

Here’s a way to make it even easier…..I get to give away a family registration!  I am so thrilled to do this and I hope you win!  I am also giving away one seat at my lunch so you have TWO chances to win!

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The Giving and Receiving of Wisdom

The Giving and Receiving of Wisdom

I sometimes hesitate to answer when someone asks me for advice because of all of my own failures.

It’s a trap…..the idea that only perfect people can offer advice.  Sure, we should seek out people who have succeeded in the area we need help with.  But that doesn’t have to mean perfection!

I get asked for advice all.of.the.time.  In the grocery store just yesterday a women stopped me and asked me a homeschool curriculum question.  On Sunday a friend at church asked me about getting kids to sleep at night.  Marriage, essential oils, dieting, blogging, mothering…..I am not an expert in any of these areas yet I get a ton of questions about them!

In fact, I don’t really think of myself as an expert in anything except the messiness of being ME.  I do know a lot about that.

I feel fully inadequate to be answering most of these questions.  And then God reminds me….that is exactly where He wants me. If I thought I had it all together and could answer any question then I wouldn’t really be helping anyone.  I would be giving too much Lisa (mess) and not enough God (perfect Father).

Proverbs 11:2 “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

When I am weak, He is made strong.  So when someone asks my advice, I prayerfully answer.  If the source of my reply is not my own knowledge but from His Word, then I don’t have to be flawless to share it with you.  I am simply the messenger.


It starts with prayer.  Put on the armor of God and spend time in His Word.  If I offer you a simple translation of what He says mixed with a few fun stories of how that worked for me then I don’t have to worry about misleading you.

Of course, God doesn’t clearly tell us which homeschool curriculum to use, that is more of an experience question.  I can just share what I know. It’s important to realize when there are many paths to the same goal….in this case that our kids will be well educated.  My way works for me, but it might not work for you.  I can’t give you an infallible answer, but I do have experience that I am happy to share and hopefully that will help.  It might even help you to see that what I did will not work for you and save you from a mistake.


But if it’s more of a “how do you honor your husband when he is wrong?” kind of question….well that is something that God does speak about in the Bible. Pull it out.  Look up the answers then pray together.

I prayed with a woman the other night in our monthy essential oil class because of some personal issues she shared with me.  I don’t know exactly what she needs, but I know the One who does.  So we asked Him together.  I don’t have to have any expertise to pray with someone.  Then I offered her my best advice.  I also gave her encouragement that I will be her friend through her trials.  I always have my friendship to offer even if my advice is not what they need.


If you get asked for advice a lot, here are some things I want to share with you:

1. Don’t think too highly of yourself! If you feel like you know a lot about a Biblical issue, be careful not to think so highly of your knowledge that you forget where it came from.  Our experience or knowledge never trumps the Word of God.
2. Spend a gob-ton of time reading the Bible.  That is your source of wisdom.
3. Spend plenty of time in prayer.  Let go of your ideas that you know so much and grab onto the lessons He has taught you though the Holy Spirit.
4. Understand your responsibility.  God is clear on this….leaders have extra responsibilities to be careful how they live and what they say.
5. Remember that you don’t have to be perfect (a lesson I need to learn!).  Your perfection is not what anyone needs…they need your humility and love.

Matthew 18: 6-7 “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea”

And as the seeker of advice, let’s also be aware that the human being we are looking to for help is flawed.  They will mess up, be wrong, poorly communicate and an endless list of other disappointments.  That does not mean they don’t have great advice for you!

1. Like I said above….read the Bible and pray!  You have just as much access to the source of true wisdom as anyone else.
2. Don’t put people on a pedestal.  No one deserves to be thought of as higher than anyone else.  This is a surefire way for your relationship with someone to crash and burn.
3. Get more than one viewpoint.  Don’t be shy about asking someone you admire (admiring is not the same as idealizing) for their wisdom.  Ask a few people and then weigh their suggestions against what you know to be true.

Proverbs 11:14 “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”

4. Seek wise counsel instead of just asking everyone.  The stranger in the grocery store doesn’t necessarily have wise advice for you.  Resist the temptation to ask advice from all of your friends.  It’s too confusing and it can lead to your destruction.

Proverbs 13:20 “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

5. Make it a goal to become wise.  So many women I meet think they have to always stay in the place of weakness.  Or they just look for tips and tricks to get through life instead of digging deep and drawing close to Christ.  Use the wisdom people share, be willing to learn and grow and change where you need to, become wise so that you can help others after you.

In a nutshell…..If you need help – ASK for wisdom!  If someone asks for your help – PRAY for wisdom!

Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

Have a great weekend!

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Do You Struggle in a New Group?

Do You Struggle in a New Group?

Great tips for those times you find yourself in a new group of people.  perfect for back to school!

So for the past few months we have been visiting a new church.  Also, I attend a lot of conferences and events where I don’t know anyone.  This is not easy for us introverts.  We have a very hard time starting up conversations and approaching people…even people we know.

I have gotten better at it with practice, but these situations can still feel like a bad dream.  You know the ones….where you’re naked and no one notices.  That pretty much sums up how I feel when I am in a crowd, no matter what size it is I feel exposed and a little uncomfortable.

And it can be even harder when you feel like no one wants to talk to you.  I had one conference experience that was just awful (you can read about it HERE) and my good friend Connie talks HERE about her similar experience (and she is an extreme extrovert y’all!).

I have developed a few tricks to help myself get through when I am overwhelmed in a group of people.  But first I want to share some things we can all do to help the introverts of the world feel more comfortable.

If you are established in a group, like church or a women’s group, look around for loners.  If someone is sitting alone go over and say hello to them.  Make it your goal to show them that you are really glad they are there.  Step out of your own comfort zone and tell them hello!

Once you have done that….follow up.  Send them a friend request on Facebook or ask for their email so you can send them a note during the week.  Knowing someone is thinking of you goes a long way toward feeling loved.

And here are some tips for the introverts reading this….

1. Remember that more than half the people in the world are introverts, so it’s not easy for them either!  Maybe the people you are wanting to meet are even more uncomfortable than you are when it comes to approaching others.

2. Try talking to ONE person.  I know it’s hard, but when I make it my goal to talk to only one new person then I can treat it like a checklist and just do it.  Even if the person I choose isn’t receptive, I did my part.

3. They don’t know you are an introvert!  Why not try to pretend you are comfortable with stepping up and talking to new people?  I have done this many times and I promise, it’s not as hard as I expect.

4. Smile.  Make eye contact.  This will let people know that you are approachable.  I wonder if sometimes I send the unintentional message through my body language that I am not interested in being approached.

5. Don’t blame others.  Even though it would be super nice if they would come talk to you, it’s not really their fault that you haven’t met them.  You, despite being slightly terrified, are capable of going up and introducing yourself.

6. Pray before you go.  Every time I am on my way to a meeting or conference where I will be around a lot of new people, I spend a time praying for courage and praising the Lord.  I do that because it always helps me to remember that no matter what anyone else thinks I am loved beyond my wildest imagination and He values me!!!

7. Forgive them.  Let’s face it, people will be rude sometimes and can seem like they don’t care about you.  If you’re in a new situation that is probably not even the case…they are more likely either shy or oblivious.  But it can still hurt your feelings and it’s so important to forgive them!  In the words of Elsa, let it go!

Last month when I was at a Young Living retreat, a friend sent me a message that her friend was there too and was having trouble meeting people.  Boy did I understand that!  So despite not being very outgoing, I sent the gal a FB message and told her I was hoping to meet her and where I was at the moment.  We met and she was delightful!  After that, because I didn’t want her to feel alone again, I continued to message her my location so she would know that if she needed a friend I wanted her to know where I was.

Wouldn’t it be nice if all of us did that for one person?!  We just might change the world!

As for our new church, we are still working on getting to know people.  It isn’t easy.  The people there seem to be really kind to one another and loving and I enjoy “people watching” as we sit in our spot.  But so far we really have not been approached or had anyone try to make much of a connection with us.  It could be tempting to think “Forget it.  I’ll go somewhere else!”  But I have to admit if I am being honest that I really haven’t tried as hard as I could.  Maybe the current members there should do the reaching out, but they don’t, so I may have to do more of it for myself.  And if we do land there and decide to join then I could decide to make a change and start treating newcomers the way I would have liked to have been treated.  (honestly, I mean no disrespect to the church we are visiting and we really do like it there…..I only say this to show how hard it is for everyone everywhere!)

Let’s work together to make other people feel welcome and wanted!

Do you struggle when you are in a group?  Do you have any tips that help you get past that?  Or what do you do to make other people feel wanted?

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8 Facts About Working with MLMs

8 Facts About Working with MLMs

Before I started working with Young Living I never wanted to run it as a business.  Like never, ever, ever!  I am not a good salesperson, I don’t keep receipts, I can barely maintain my busy life, what do I need another business for?!

Plus, MLM companies have a bad rep….I mean, they are pyramid schemes, right?  The people at the top make millions while the poor saps at the bottom get ripped off?  Who’s got time for that mess?!

That’s what I thought, but then something happened.  I started talking about my love for the Young Living products.  It was nothing but friend-to-friend conversation. Then people started to privately ask me questions about different oils and their specific needs and I would try to help.  They would sign up to get the products.  I was genuine in my love for the oils.  I only wanted to share my passion and help people get healthier and have options for wellness.

Then I started earning a small check every month.  Cool!  I bought more oils.

No one ever pressed me or tried to push me to get more members or promised me great wealth if I would convince others to join….I just loved Thieves and lavender and my diffuser and I had to tell people about it.

After a while, to my surprise, I hit a new “rank” in the company and my checks got bigger and I was still just sharing my love for the oils.  But I heard from several people, “Hey, you’re part of a scam!”

Say wha?!

That concerned me because all I wanted to do was bless others.  So I did some research, spent time working with the company and learned a lot about network marketing that I want to share with you.

MLM's have a bad rep, but this shows some truths about what it's like to really work with them!

1. Young Living is NOT a pyramid scheme! –  In many countries (including the US) pyramid schemes are illegal.  They are a form of fraud.  Pyramid schemes, sometimes called Ponzie schemes, are not based on products and not sustainable for long.  Pyramid schemes are about “get the money and get out”.  Young Living has been around for 20 years and is still going strong.

“I am often asked if Network Marketing is a Pyramid Scheme. My reply is that corporations really are pyramid schemes. A corporation has only one person at the top, generally the CEO, and everyone else below.” — Donald Trump, Entrepreneur and Author

2. We are product based – The old scam was that there was no actual product, but money came from having people pay to join, then that money went to the previous members and as new people joined more money came in and was distributed, etc.  Eventually it would collapse because there were no new members.

Young Living is nothing like that!  It is completely built on incredible products.  These oils and supplements are what get me excited.  When you join, you are not buying air, you are adding value to your life with health and wellness and a support system for your family.  It’s tangible in that small amber bottle of goodness you can hold, smell, enjoy!  Of course you have to actually BUY it….there is money involved.  They can’t give things away for free just like any business!


3. Membership has value – When you join Costco, you pay $50-$100 for the privilege of shopping there.  They bring in products and offer them to you at a somewhat discounted rate.  In the case of Young Living, if you buy their Premium Starter Kit there is no membership fee and you get 24% off on all of your purchases after that.  Like Costco, you pay annually to maintain your membership status.  Except in the case of Young Living you get $50 worth of product for your $50 instead of just paying a fee.  That’s why I feel so confident sharing it.  It’s a terrific value!

4. No ads! – Instead of doing what Coca~Cola does and spend $4,500,000 on a Superbowl ad, a network marketing company (MLM) spends that money on their members.  It’s brilliant actually!  Word of mouth by trusted friends is a great way to promote and sell a well made product.  So Young Living pours their money back into their hard-working members and counts on them to continue to share.

“Home-based businesses are one of the fastest-growing segments in our economy, and that trend will only continue, as the age of the corporation, which began barely a century ago, now gives way to the age of the entrepreneur.” – Paul Zane Pilzer, Author and Nobel Prize Winning Economist

5. A connection between members and corporate – When a company relies so heavily on its members, they have to be willing to listen to them!  Young Living deeply values every single member, no matter whether they ever become business builders or not.  It’s apparent in their customer service, dedication to quality and treatment of the communities where they have their farms.  Every comment or suggestion I have ever made has been heard and valued.  I know this is the same for many of my friends who work with them.  I love that there’s not a huge divide between the members and the guys in the business suits.

Just a few weeks ago I had the blessing of visiting the Young Living farms and corporate offices in Utah.  The company executives were right out there with us answering questions, asking about our families, telling us how they produce the oils, etc.  We are as much a part of Young Living as those who park their cars in their corporate parking lot every morning.

6. You are supported! – This fact really depends on who you join with, but many members give tons of support and encouragement to those who join with them.  You are not left alone to figure it out for yourself.  If you sign up with me, for example, I add you to Facebook groups that support your needs, I send you gifts to help you learn to use your oils and I check on you.  I keep you as up to date as I can on the latest company news and I work to add personal value to your membership.  Believe me, I EARN my income.  I’m not just sitting on a pile of cash and flying to Hawaii while someone under me wonders where their money went.

7. How we really earn – Unlike the pyramid scheme of simply making money buy selling empty memberships, Young Living uses a direct sales model.  They sell directly to the consumer instead of going through a retail outlet.  We, the distributor,  get commission on the purchases of the members we helped join.  I hear people questioning that as if it’s evil.  Why?  I ran a successful etsy shop for years, selling what I made and no one ever said, “You shouldn’t be telling us about your burlap monogrammed table runners because you make money on them!”  Of course I made money on them!  That was how we supported our family!

This is the same thing….I tell you what products I love and hope you will buy them.  But I am not lying to you….I spent my own money to buy those same products and will continue to do so.  They cost me the same amount that they cost you and I happily pay it.  Because I love them and they WORK!

In addition to commission, we earn a portion of the company’s profit each month.  The % earned depends on your level or “rank”. This is not about “passing money to the top”.  It’s that the members are an important part of the business and care about the company.  It can be compared to any business that is partly owned by its employees.  Avis Rental Car and Publix grocery stores, for example are at least partially owned by their employees who own shares.  Those shares are allocated by the work performed (according to Wikipedia). Young Living is not owned by the members, but they do get a share of the profits every month.   Those who work more earn more.  There’s nothing scammy about that!

8. You can earn too! – IF you want (there is absolutely no pressure!) you can earn an income through this wonderful company too.  You can do exactly what I did….tell your friends about your love for the oils and supplements.  Then they tell two friends, and they tell two friends, and so on (anyone here from the 70’s?).  Then before you know it you’re earning a small check every month that you can use to buy more oils or make a car payment or anything else you need!

And the coolest part is that it is available to anyone who puts in the time and effort.  There’s no waiting for your boss to decide to promote you or hoping you will get noticed.  It’s your business to do what you want with, but at the same time you are part of a huge support system.  If you want to stay small and just earn enough to buy more oils, great!  If you want to, like many of my friends have done, bring your spouse home from a job they hate so you can work together in your own business, you can do that too!  It’s completely up to you.  You have all of the power.  And it is as available to you as it is to anyone else.  You reap what you sow.

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Believe me, no one is more surprised than I am to discover that network marketing is such a terrific model to work with.  Yes, there is a system of ranking up through the company which can take some getting used to.  But the more I work with it the more I can see how smart it is.  Those people who have built a bigger team work really hard and deserve to make more money than I do.  But if I keep educating myself and encouraging my new friends (and that’s been another huge benefit… the wonderful friendships I’ve built!) as they build their own businesses and continue to educate myself, I can grow as much as I want.

Encouraging others is my favorite part!  I have members living on single incomes who are using their earnings to get their families out of debt, do home repairs, send their kids to college, etc.  I actually get the privilege of being a small part of that!  I care about them because they are my friends….not because I earn an income from it.  That is simply icing on the already delicious cake!

I hope this helps you to see that MLMs are not the evil mastermind that they are portrayed as.  If you’re thinking of joining one, look into the company and if it has been around for a long time, you genuinely love the products and can honestly share about them…GO FOR IT!

(and of course, I would love to have you join me in my amazing journey that God has me on through Young Living!  Click HERE to get started!)