How I Get Through The Hard Times
Motherhood is such a difficult journey. One day they’re babies in your arms nursing and reaching for your face. Then you blink and they are causing your heart to break into a million pieces that you don’t know if you can ever recover from.
In the midst of some of my dark times of mothering and personal growth, I had to admit that I was letting my health fall to the wayside. I didn’t care. I was in too much pain. But then God reached down and gave me a nudge and reminded me that I am just as valuable as I ever was, despite feeling like such a failure.
I had stopped exercising, stopped eating healthy food and started to gain back the weight I had worked so hard to lose. And that made me feel even more depressed. It’s such a vicious cycle! But you know what? I am worth more than chips and ice cream. So I started the uphill climb back to health and now I am embracing the journey. Again
I am also using my essential oils like they are liquid gold. They have been an invaluable help with getting through the shock and pain after one daughter ran away from home. It has been the hardest thing I have ever been through since not only did she leave, but my parents and sister assisted her and cut off their relationship with us. It has been with God’s caring hand and the support of friends that I have healed from that pain and been able to see the light of joy. Actually, it’s a deeper and more meaningful joy than I ever experienced before this happened. Truly!
I wanted to share with you what oils I am using, in case any of you need it someday (but I sure hope not!).
1. Peace & Calming – When it first happened…like the first hour….I was crying so hard I couldn’t breathe. I was gasping for air when my husband found me and said, “You need an oil!” I couldn’t think of what I needed, so he ran into the bathroom where I keep them out on a shelf and he grabbed the Peace & Calming (in my diluted roll-on bottle). He handed it to me and I just started rubbing it all over my face and trying to breathe. Within seconds I felt uplifted. (update: this oil is not available right now, so a recommended substitute would be StressAway or Gathering)
2. Valor, Tranquil, Joy and White Angelica – Once I calmed down, I still couldn’t think of what oils to use, so I texted my good friend and asked her advice. She recommended these four. James got them for me and I started putting them on….didn’t matter where….my wrists, neck, chest. I don’t really remember. I just had to get them on my body. It helped a LOT. After a minute of using them I was able to think. I could feel my mind settling down. After that I was able to go to talk with my other children and spend time with them. I used the oils on them too. They were also in pain. (sadly, Valor is also out of stock but a recommended sub would be Magnify Your Purpose or Envision)
3. Joy, Bergamot & Forgiveness – These have been my go-to over the past couple of years. I rub a drop of Joy over my heart, bergamot on the bottoms of my feet and forgiveness over my liver. I just played around with where to put them until I found this to be my favorite. There is so much relief God wanted to give me, but I was blocked with pain and grief. These helped open my mind and let go of the unforgiveness (much of it toward myself). It’s been kind of amazing.
Sometimes, out of the blue, my heart will just start hurting. When that happens I grab the Joy and rub it right over my heart. It’s been a balm for me.
4. Lavender & Dream Catcher– At bedtime I use these both on myself and in the diffuser. It supports good sleep and helps me not let the thoughts take over in the middle of the night. I have also been putting it on the kids when they seem unsettled.
To sum up, I have used a LOT of oils.
When you sign up with Young Living and order the Premium Standard Kit. From this list above you will get Lavender and a diffuser in this kit. I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t had these on hand. Having my oils right by my side, diffusing in the house and ready to use on my kids when they are feeling stressed and upset has been a blessing for us all!
I can’t leave this subject without mentioning that I spend a TON of time praying and reading the Bible. There is so much comfort and wisdom there that I feel like I can’t get enough of it. I have read more Bible in the past 2 years than in my whole life combined. How sweet is it that God used this difficult time to point me right back to Him in a way I would never have done without the suffering!!
If you’ve struggled with feeling like a failure as a mom or been rejected by a child or a family member, remember that there is hope for you! You are worth spending time on and taking good care of yourself. You are so worth it!!!
Don’t forget there’s more info about this on YouTube.
I am not a doctor, these opinions are from my own experiences. If you feel you need emotional support please see a physician and make wise health decisions.
My prayers are with you, your daughter, and your whole family! I wish I’d known about oils years ago in dealing with my daughter (she’s 25 and still has issues) and step-son. I encourage you to keep going, every day, with your exercise, diet, and prayer. Your kids at home are looking to you to be strong and be their guide – taking care of yourself physically and spiritually is the only way. What a wonderful example you are to them. I remember sharing with a friend that I couldn’t get anything done because worry for my daughter was forefront in my mind, she said every time the worry/thoughts start “pray – give it to God”. I told her that might be several thousand times a day!! She said, “it’s ok, give it to God every time”. It helped! God is good, and He gave me peace and comfort – every time! I pray for softened hearts, and restoration for your family. ((Hugs))
Didn’t have my EOs 4 years ago, but by God’s grace and mercy alone, He got me through it. But NOW I’m supplied! These oils truly are His gift and I’m so glad to hear how much they’ve been an added BALM to your body, soul, and spirit!
Lisa, I have been an admirer of yours for just over a year, and have been following you on Pintertist. I’m related to Myra and Kelly. My heart breaks over this loss you’ve had. Been sitting here praying for you and your family, and decided to reach out to you. I can identify with sooo much of what you wrote, have been experiencing all the stages of emotions you went through, still go through. Isaiah 41:10 is my go to verse these days. I have not tried Tranquil, but have used and diffused Release. Guess it does much of the same as Tranquil. The physical pain from a broken heart is real. I love Stress Away and Peace and Calming together. Love like you do Valor. Both go over heart and wrist, and because I love having them on me, had not diffused, but give it a try, it’s heavenly. Actually saw a drastic difference in my agitated 19 yr old after the diffuser had been running for about 8 minutes. Now my 19 yr old and 21 yr old come and ask “is there an oil for…?” For those of us who are walking with the Lord, trying to Honor and Glorify Him, we can only do what we know to do, and trust God for the rest. Does not mean we are perfect or always right, we after all are a work in progress. Continue to let the Lord be your strength, hug, love and be there for the other children, reassure with lots of touches and hugs. (Know you are already doing this.) Do something fun with the family. You know what good medicine laughter is! Please know you are loved and being prayed for! You are an inspiration and God is using you in ways beyond your believing.