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Embracing Modesty, No. 12

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Thanks so much for all of the support and encouragement you all have given us through this series!  We just thought it would be fun to photograph ourselves since we dress up every day and it’s turned into a party.

I have gotten so many great questions since we started that I thought I’d stop and answer a few today.

1. When did you start teaching your girls about modesty?

God started me down a path toward modesty when my oldest was only 3, so the girls have always dressed modestly and we have always talked about it.  I do think it’s important to talk as a family about clothing and how we make our choices.  Because our children understand why we believe in being modest and feminine they are open to my opinion about their clothes and I rarely have to put my foot down about anything they want to wear.  Communication is the key!

2. What do you do about sports?

Our family is not a sport family, but of course we do things that are active and no one wants their skirt flying up.  Each girl has some pants that we wear at home when we are gardening, painting, building, etc.  We wear longer tops over them to keep more covered, but we can easily move around without risking exposure.  (yikes!)

If you think outside the box, there’s always a cute way to make something more modest.

3. What do you do for pajamas?

I love a pretty nightgown, but I hate to spend money on pajamas!  So we basically wear long pajama pants and big t-shirts.  The thing we are very careful of when it comes to pajamas is that they aren’t see-through or clingy.  Often actual pajamas can be too sheer, so it’s easier to just wear t-shirts.  We want to respect that even though it’s just at home, we still need to be covered and modest.

4. What about your sons?

a. We expect our boys to be modest also.  They don’t go shirtless or wear short shorts. They tuck their shirts in (most of the time) and wear a belt.  It’s just good manners.

b. We teach our boys about modesty for girls.  They need to understand why we make our choices and how it affects them.  Also, they will be husbands and father one day (Lord willing!) and they will lead a family.  They need to understand how their parents make decisions.

5. Do you have any affordable sources for modest clothing?

It’s always exciting to find good sources for modest clothing.  Or even other blog posts, or maybe you have written about it.  So I thought I’d start a group Pinterest board where we can all contribute!  If you want to pin on this board, leave me a comment with your Pinterest link and I will add you.  I’d love to see what you find!

If you don’t want to contribute, you can still follow the board for some great ideas!

**I’ve gotten a lot of questions about swimwear.  I will do a whole post on that soon.  It’s a challenge to be sure!**

If you have any questions or even some of your own thoughts I’d love to hear.  Plus, if you haven’t done it already….there are lots of great tips other readers have left in the comments of each post, so if you’re in the mood you might like going back and reading through them.

Check out the rest of this series in our Embracing Modesty Gallery!

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  1. You want to know what I appreciate most about this series…your wisdom and your humility in presenting your views. My ideas of modest are not exactly yours. But, I don’t feel judged. Nor did I in person. I think you are a wonderful example, Lisa. Even if you don’t use an Apple.=)

  2. I love this series! Thank you for staying true to your beliefs and teaching your kids about modesty! Its been encouraging to share your posts with my girls to prove there are other people in the world who think like I do!

  3. We are not a dresses or skirts only family, but we do work at modesty and femininity.

    I love the ideas you have shared.

    Deanna

  4. Hi Lisa –

    I don’t have any two legged kids – only the four legged variety. I am enjoying the series – lots of cute ideas – but – even more-so – I admire so much that you are truly parenting your children. As someone who doesn’t have kids but has to deal with them in public and social situations – its so refreshing to see a family where the parents are providing them with a belief system, rules, consequences, etc. It’s so rare these days! I wish there were more engaged moms out there – the world sure needs more folks like you for sure. Thank you for being such an awesome example!

    Jen

  7. I agree, you just have to think outside the box sometimes, but cute, modest and affordable, can all be done at the same time! (Although I will pay more if I have to, because it’s important to me that I don’t cause others to think of modest dress as frumpy).

    In my journey to modesty and femininity, I experimented a bit, did quite a bit of research on the matter, and have come to my own conclusions, which are very similar to yours. Ever since I read a secular article about women’s pants being designed to draw attention to the top of her legs, and also become aware of guys’ eyes being drawn to the backside, I don’t feel comfortable in pants.

    So, here are some of the things I do:

    PJ’s: I live alone, but my neighbors can see into my living room/kitchen. Since I like to first do some stuff in the morning before getting dressed for work, (and the neighbors can see that) my pjs have to meet the same standards as my other clothing. Sometimes that means a bathrobe, but most of my nightclothes are comfy knit dresses or knit skirts + t-shirts from the thrift store. When it’s really cold out, (No, I don’t live in TX!) I wear my long sweat skirt to bed with pj pants underneath.

    Sports: I wear a cute sporty sweat skirt with capri length exercise pants underneath. Kind of like a tennis skirt or girls’ hockey skirt, but longer.

    Swimsuit: This is one that I struggled with for a while. First I tried a Lands End swim skirt plus tankini top. Big improvement over a traditional bathing suit. But the top was low, and the skirt was much shorter than I would wear otherwise. I added a bit of mesh, but still…A lot of what I saw online when I was looking a few years ago was either not very attractive, or else it looked like swimming in your clothes.
    Hmmm…I didn’t want to look ridiculous, but trying to stay modest at the lake was a pain without the right swimsuit. So…I finally decided to make my own bathing suit. It was much easier than I expected, and turned out just adorable! (Maybe I’ll e-mail you a pic.) That made me confident enough to wear it, even though the skirt’s longer than other swim skirts, and the top is cut a bit higher. The funny thing is, I’ve had women ask me where they can get one, I can talk to friends’ husbands at the lake or pool with no qualms, and I actually feel very liberated in the swimsuit that I expected to feel a little embarrassed about!

    Whew, that was a long comment! In case anybody’s still reading: Hope you have a truly blessed Easter!
    Jacqueline

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