Since sharing about our daughter leaving home I have been overwhelmed with phone calls, emails and messages of love and support. Thank you. Believe it or not, I did not expect that response at all. God has spoken to me through each of you and I am indescribably grateful.
And there are so, so many other mothers who are going through, or have been through, the same thing. My heart breaks for all of you. I made a list of your names and I am praying for each name in the morning before I run. You’re my new tribe.
Through this difficult time it is more important than ever that I take good care of myself.
As much as I don’t feel like eating, when I do eat I am sure to make it healthy foods and not junk. I am staying away from sugar and carbs and eating plenty of veggies. And I am still taking my walk every morning and spending that time listening to praise music and letting God lift me up. Part of me wants to not care about anything, but the prayer pulls me back to the truth…..that I am still responsible to take care of myself for not only me, but my husband, kids and the friends that God has so mercifully given me.
I am also using my essential oils like they are liquid gold. They have been an invaluable help with getting through the shock and pain. I wanted to share with you what I am using, in case any of you need it someday (but I sure hope not!).
1. Peace & Calming – When it first happened…like the first hour….I was crying so hard I couldn’t breathe. I was gasping for air when my husband found me and said, “You’re having a panic attack….you need an oil!” I couldn’t think of what I needed, so he ran into the bathroom where I keep them out on a shelf and he grabbed the Peace & Calming (in my diluted roll-on bottle). He handed it to me and I just started rubbing it all over my face and trying to breathe. Within seconds my breathing settled down, I stopped crying as hard and I could think a little more clearly.
2. Valor, Tranquil, Joy and White Angelica – Once the panic attack stopped I still couldn’t think of what oils to use, so I texted my good friend and asked her advice. She recommended these four. James got them for me and I started putting them on….didn’t matter where….my wrists, neck, chest. I don’t really remember. I just had to get them on my body. It helped a LOT. After a minute of using them I stopped crying and was able to think. I could feel my mind settling down and starting to cope. After that I was able to go to talk with my other children and spend time with them. I put both Peace & Calming and Valor in the diffuser and ran it all day to help the whole family.
3. Valor, Joy, Forgiveness – These are the three that I have used most over the past two weeks. Valor helps me gather strength to move forward and deal with the emotional roller coaster, Joy helps me remember that there is always something to be thankful for and lifts my spirits, Forgiveness is known to help release hurtful memories and move beyond emotional barriers. Boy do I need that one!
Sometimes, out of the blue, my heart will just start hurting (like physical pain so bad I once thought I might be having a heart attack). When that happens I grab the Valor and rub it right where the pain is. It’s been a balm for me.
4. Lavender and Peace & Calming - At bedtime I use these both on myself and in the diffuser. It’s helping me sleep and not let the thoughts take over in the middle of the night. I have also been putting it on the kids when they seem unsettled.
To sum up, I have used a LOT of Peace & Calming. But there are many other oils that are great for anxiety and pressure. When I am ready, I am going to try some of those. But for now, while we are still dealing with the initial shock I am sticking to these.
When you sign up with Young Living and order the Premium Standard Kit you will get Valor, Peace & Calming, Lavender and Joy. I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t had these on hand. Having my oils right by my side, diffusing in the house and ready to use on my kids when they are feeling stressed and upset has been a blessing for us all!
Lastly, I spend a TON of time praying and reading the Bible. There is so much comfort and wisdom there that I feel like I can’t get enough of it.
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I am not a doctor, these opinions are from my own experiences. If you feel you need emotional support please see a physician and make wise health decisions.