Let Me ‘Splain.  No, There is too Much.  Let Me Sum Up.

Let Me ‘Splain. No, There is too Much. Let Me Sum Up.

I am not going to make any attempt to tell you all about the past week of my life.  It’s frankly too much activity for one person and I am now considering applying to be on The Amazing Race, having proved to myself that I can get lost in several cities and survive.

In San Francisco last weekend I had the taxi driver from ‘H-E-double-hockey-sticks’, weaving in and out of oncoming traffic as I cried out in terror, and I lived to tell about it.  Having looked into the face of death and won, I am feeling much less intimidated by the 9 children and 450 emails that await my attention this morning.

Not to mention last Sunday being followed around Seattle at 5:30AM by a homeless man who decided I needed to hear all about how much he hates it when people stare at him.  That, for this country girl, was a bit too much.  I did think he was generally harmless, but it unnerved me enough that I got turned around and couldn’t find my way back to my hotel.  I had to kind of just keep jogging instead of trying to stop and figure it out.  Nothing says “come attack me” like standing alone in a deserted downtown staring at a tourist map.  I did eventually find it, thankfully!

Yesterday on a drive home from Houston I started feeling my body settle into travel weariness and I had to munch on Sonic ice to keep from falling asleep.  When we pulled into the driveway I asked my daughter who was with me if she minded propping me on her back and dragging me into the house.  I wasn’t sure if I could make the last 100 ft.

I am glad to report I have a couple of weeks off from traveling and plan to spend every second with my kids that didn’t get to go with me and just stare at them.  This morning I sat at the table to talk with my boys and I told Elijah, “Bring your chair over here and sit right next to me.”  He did and I kept patting his back and rubbing his shoulder when finally I just proclaimed that even though he is 11 years old, I would need him to sit in my lap for a few minutes because I missed him too much to be satisfied with just being next to him.  He begrudgingly did it.  I hugged it out then released him to go be his own person who will undoubtedly need therapy someday.

Speaking of needing therapy, my daughter Hope will likely have a lot to say to her future counselor after having seen me in my underwear yesterday.  In the middle of the mall.  We were shopping and as I reached toward a rack of clothes it happened….my skirt fell right to the floor.  It was all so quick!  I heard her gasp, felt a chill on my backside and something plopped at my feet all in the same second.  I looked down and tried to process what the gray pile of fabric was around my ankles.  Could that be my skirt?!  Yep.  I scooped it up as fast as I could then turned to my daughter to see her laughing so hard she had to walk away.  I tried to just nonchalantly move onward through the mall like nothing happened, but it kept flashing through our minds and we’d start to giggle uncontrollably.  Nothing like a little mother-daughter bonding to end the weekend.

Have a good one!

Just Keepin’ On!

Just Keepin’ On!

In the 6 years since I started blogging this is the first time I have gone a whole week without posting.  Not even when I had dental surgery the day after my grandmother passed away.  That should tell you how crazy it’s been here.

Just a few days after I got home from Salt Lake City I flew to Chicago to go to the 2:1 Conference where I was also a speaker.  That meant I needed to figure out what I was going to talk about in my session plus fill a load of Shop24 orders before I left.  So I had one of my kids make my Power Point and another one finish filling the etsy orders.  You say sweatshop; I say survival.

Somehow I made it to Chicago in mostly one piece and the conference was great.  Those are my people.  Homeschool, Christian bloggers (not to mention my peeps from Hip Homeschool Moms!).  The sessions covered everything from building your blog as a business to understanding when to get off line and live your life.  Hallelujah for a conference with a conscience!

Conference buddies

My sweet friends Heidi St. John, Connie Hughes and Jen Schmidt!

If you are following me on Instagram then you know that I spent Monday attempting to see all of Chicago in one day.  I was alone, which made it easier to just run from one place to the next without worrying about another person.  Normally I would have missed having someone to talk to, but since I had spent the past 2 weekends surrounded by hundreds of friends, I kind of enjoyed the quiet.  I saw so many places that I am seriously considering writing a pamphlet showing how I did it.

A quick trip to see Chicago!

The Chicago Theater

My first tip: Lose weight and start exercising.  ‘Cuz no way I could have done that a year ago.  I would have worn out too quickly and had to stop.  I am not exaggerating when I say I think I climbed at least 1,000 steps.  That alone would have put me into some kind of medical crisis before I started getting healthy.  I did get tired, but not as much as you would think.

A quick trip to see Chicago!

The Bean! (aka Cloud Gate)

Once I got home I had to pull out the Energizer Bunny suit and keep on going because it was one of the boys’ birthday and that couldn’t be missed.  I headed to the city with him and a couple of the other kids (they get to invite 2 siblings to join them on their b-day outing).  Unfortunately he wanted to see Captain America, which is my third time to watch that movie.  Once to preview it for the kids, again when my husband wanted to go together and now this.  I don’t even care for super hero movies, so I mostly ran in and out bringing drinks and snacks to the three kids.  I will do pretty much anything to avoid seeing people fighting.  And car chases….they make me so upset that I get sick to my stomach.  I sit there worrying about the people whose cars get crashed in the chase and if they have insurance or small children in the car.

James tries to explain to me that they aren’t real people’s cars and it’s all pretend.  But I say that if I am supposed to believe those guys are flying through the air fighting to save the world then why am I not supposed to believe someone needs that car they just smashed to pieces?  Clearly I should stick with chick flicks and cartoons.

I am gonna spend the next few days unpacking and snuggling anyone who walks past.  I missed these people.  I also have big plans to clean up the house the way only a mamma can do.  They kept it pretty neat while I was gone, but I have a need to scrub some walls and vacuum under furniture.

Then, just maybe, I will rest.  But I can’t make any promises.

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I’ve Got a Ticket to Ride

I’ve Got a Ticket to Ride

It’s weeks like this when I wonder why I never took up drinking coffee.  I hear such great things about it.  Although truthfully, I get so obsessed with things I am sure I would have been one of those people that has 6 different coffee makers and orders her beans from exotic countries and thumbs her nose at Folger’s people.

I am leaving again today for another conference and this time I am speaking.  Crazy, you say?  You’re right.  But I love the 2:1 conference!  And I love the ladies that attend!!!  I’m excited to get there.

On Monday morning when I got home from Salt Lake City, I removed the contents of my suitcase, washed the laundry and then piled it all back on top of the suitcase at the foot of my bed.  There it sat all week waiting for me to shove it all back in and carry it to Chicago.

I have never been to Chicago so I asked around to find out what I must see while I am there.  I got a ton of great tips, including Navy Pier and several museums.  I finally decided to buy a Go Chicago pass that gets me into a bunch of places free.  I’ve got one day after the conference to be touristy.  I plan to see as much as possible.

And since I have a problem with getting stuck on songs….I will now be humming, “I’ve Got a Ticket to Ride” in my head for the next week.  My guess is, since I don’t really know the words, that it’s a terrible song and no one should be singing it, but I can’t make it stop.  It’s a sickness I tell you.  My decision not to drink coffee is looking smarter and smarter all the time.  I can’t even imagine being stuck on a song while hyped up on caffeine.

Back in the day if I was in Chicago I would have gone to see Oprah or Donahue.  I miss them.  Now it’s all comediennes and reality TV stars doing talk shows in New York and LA.  I also miss “Little House on the Prairie” and shoulder pads.  But that’s not relevant here.

Last night I sat with the kids and gave out assignments for while I am away.  I told them all of the things I expect them to do before I return home.  Last weekend while I was gone was the fun weekend.  This one is the work weekend.  Painting and repairing and deep cleaning.  Throw in some geography memorization and it’s gonna be a partay around here.  If you happen to drive by and see no one working….please stop and crack a whip for me.

I went to bed before 10 because I knew Friday and Saturday I would be up late into the night visiting with my conference buddies.  These homeschool blogging moms know how to celebrate a weekend with no kids.  I packed my Depends just in case the laughing gets going….y’all know I don’t handle that well.

Have a great weekend.  Try not to get my song stuck in your head.

My Four Favorite Essential Oils and a Giveaway!

My Four Favorite Essential Oils and a Giveaway!

Four great essential oils that you must try! -- The Pennington Point

You already know that I am wild over my Young Living essential oils.  Joy and Valor are running rampant around here.  The oils have helped so much with not only the occasional runny noses and sunburn, but also with things like the kids’ concentration and my random moodiness.

I even read some info last week that said lemon, frankincense and lavender can help with wrinkles.  Oh, you can bet I am trying that.  If anyone asks me if I have had work done on my face you will be the first to know!

To get James through tax season I diffused oils in his office for the past month.  I am sure the clients that stopped by to pick up their tax return wondered what that lovely, but un-CPA-like scent was.  Not that CPAs have a specific scent, but how often do you go into an accountant’s office and immediately feel relaxed and clear headed?

The oils in the Premium Kit are fantastic and if you haven’t tried them that’s the very best place to start.  I am having a love affair with every one of them!  But there are a few others that I love too, so I thought I’d share them with you in case you’re looking for something new to try.

  Four great essential oils that you must try! -- The Pennington Point

1. Abundance – this oil is so rich and lovely.  I have used almost a whole bottle just sharing it with friends because I want everyone to try it.  It’s one that I use every day.  There’s just something about it.  Since using it I have noticed that I am more open to opportunities that come my way and I’m better able to decide which path to follow when faced with a conflict.  I have definitely had an increase of success lately.  I don’t think the oil does that of course, but it opens me up to the possibilities.

2. Clarity – I travel so much that I always, always take this oil with me.  I tend to get easily overwhelmed when I am running to make a flight or being patted down by the airport security.  This oil helps me keep my wits about me.  I also need it at the grocery store, in traffic and most definitely when going over my receipts with my husband.

3. Magnify Your Purpose – I bought this oil for my older kids…to help them as they find their way in life.  But then I discovered it is great for me too!  I diffused it while I was working on my book and it really helped.  My essential oil reference book says, “This blend stimulates the endocrine system for greater energy flow to the right hemisphere of the brain, activating creativity, motivation, and focus.”  Yes, please.

Four great essential oils that you must try! -- The Pennington Point

4. Into the Future – When I was at the Summit last January I met another Young Living friend who had this oil with her.  Of course I had to try it and WOW!  I really loved it.  I felt so alive!  You can imagine how much it elevated the experience of being with a group of women who were on this homeschooling journey with too.  It is supposed to help you leave the past behind and progress with vision and excitement.  I use it anytime I am feeling apprehensive or a need to look forward instead of wallowing in the past.  In other words, I use it a lot.

I have built up a wonderful collection of oils that have been a blessing to me in so many ways.  But these four are my current faves.  And I can’t stand not to give some of it to you.  So here’s what I want to do…..

I am going to randomly choose one of you to give ONE of these oils to (choose from Abundance 15ml, Clarity 15 ml, Magnify Your Purpose 5ml or Into the Future 5ml) along with an essential oil pocket reference.

Pocket reference giveaway I use my pocket reference all of the time….like several times a day.  I used to keep it in the bathroom just to read through it because I find it so fascinating.  So I have to share that too!  That’s one bottle of fabulous oils and a Pocket reference….a $55 value!!!

Just because I love you so.

And if you are interested in getting started with Young Living oils you can CLICK HERE to learn a little more about that.  I would love to have you join me on this great adventure!

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By the way, I am not a doctor.  The testimonies I share here are my experience and not intended for diagnosis or cure.  It is your responsibility to educate yourself and if you are dealing with a serious situation I encourage you to seek professional help.

Do Teens Need Privacy?

Do Teens Need Privacy?

In the past week I have had three phone calls with desperate moms who need help in handling a teen who keeps crying out about the injustice of having their privacy invaded. I thought I’d share a few of my thoughts about this with you all too….in case any of you are also dealing with this issue.

The truth about teens demanding their privacy....

The thing about teens needing privacy is…..it’s bunk.  This is a “rule” of life that the teen just made up.  Then society and psychology feeds it by telling them that they deserve it.  I’m sorry, but it simply isn’t true.

Yes, we all need times that we can be alone with our thoughts to figure out problems or rest or help a friend occasionally.  But the idea that we should be able to keep secrets about what we are doing or planning or that kids should be allowed to hide their texts from their parents is pure craziness.

You, the parents, are responsible for your child’s actions and you are providing for and protecting them.  They have no right to privacy from you.  You give them the privacy that YOU think they need, not that they demand.  In fact, the more they demand it the less I will give.  That just tells me that they are hiding something and that’s not OK.

God gave us all a built in private place through our thoughts, dreams and prayers.  Your children have that automatically and they have complete control over how much of that they will share with you.  Parents definitely should not try to push their way into their child’s thoughts.  It’s disrespectful.

BUT they do not automatically get privacy over what’s in their drawers or who they talk to on the phone or where they are going.  That privacy is earned by proving you are trustworthy.

Now let me say here that I have never gone through my children’s drawers or made them show me their texts.  When we have a problem, I may tell them that because I am not trusting them in a certain area it would be best if they show me those things.  If they refuse (which has never happened so I am just thinking here) I would take the phone, contents of the drawer, etc. from them and hold it until they agreed to show it to me and discuss it responsibly and face whatever consequences come with their choices.  I would not just look through it behind their back unless I felt something dangerous was happening.

I work hard to make sure my kids can trust me not to overreact when they tell me they have done something they shouldn’t.  However, I have no problem taking a phone away, putting restrictions on it, holding favorite toys, whatever it takes to teach the lesson.  I love my children too much to let something like an ipod or toy come between them and their godly character.

The very idea that a child (and yes, teens are still children no matter what they think) can demand to have secret phone conversations or hide what is in their purse is simply the result of a world losing touch with righteousness.

Here’s what God has to say on the matter from Luke 12:2-3, “Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known. Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops.”

He also says in Romans 13 that we are not to resist the authorities that God has appointed for us.  It is clear on that subject, but never says anything about 13 year olds having a right to use their phone at midnight.

I know this seems harsh.  I do think that a responsible, respectful teen should be able to have some private areas, as long as he knows that he is subject to being asked to share those places if a problem arises.  The main point is that YOU decide where privacy is allowed and not.  A young person does not yet have the wisdom, no matter how smart they are, to understand when that is necessary.  They also do not carry the weight of the financial, emotional, legal, physical or spiritual responsibility if something serious happens as a result of their actions.  You have every right to know what they are doing.

As long as my children are doing their work, taking care of their things, being respectful and kind….I give them privacy.  Although what’s funny is they don’t really feel the need for it as much if they aren’t trying to hide anything, which leads to me being happy to give it to them….the beautiful circle of trust.

 

5 Thoughts That Really Help When Marriage Gets Difficult

5 Thoughts That Really Help When Marriage Gets Difficult

No marriage is perfect.  This is by a woman with a happy marriage but still willing to admit that it's not always easy! -- The Pennington Point

As tax season rolls along I get lonely.  And sad.  It’s true….9 kids and a home business, but sometimes I feel lonely for my husband and I want him to stop working and give me some attention.

As wives we all have something that makes our marriage a challenge.  If he doesn’t work too much then maybe he doesn’t work enough, or manage the kids like you think he should or even simple things like sloppiness or picky eating can be hard on a wife.

No matter what imperfections your husband has, God gave him to you and wants you to learn and grow through your struggles.  I’m not excusing your husband’s flaws, but this is not about him.  This is about us.

From the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas, “But what if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy . . . but holy? And what if your relationship isn’t as much about you and your spouse as it is about you and God?”

For me every tax season is an opportunity to turn to God to meet my need for attention and affection.  AND I learn more and more every year better ways to sacrifice my need for my husband’s.  It ain’t easy, sister.  But the riches that go along with these lessons are immeasurable!

Maybe you’re one of those amazing wives who will say that pleasing her husband is her life’s mission and nothing satisfies her more.  I admire those women so much.  But I am not one of them.  My flesh wants to fulfill its own desires and be petted.  Sad but true.  I like getting my way.

And God knows that! I know because 2 Timothy 3:2-4 is a whole list of selfish struggles and since I can see myself in so many of them, I know God understands!  It is only through God’s grace and mercy that we are able to overcome these issues.  Being in His Word shows me clearly that God is ready to help me through my hard times in everything….even the tiny problem of wishing my husband were more available.

Here are 5 thoughts that help me find peace when marriage gets difficult:

1. We must not seek satisfaction in anything but God. 
Sometimes I wonder if I would have the deep relationship with my Lord if I had an easier life.  My trials bring me closer to Him and allow me to see the eternal joy that He wants to give me.
Psalm 16:11b you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand”

2. We are responsible for our actions, not our husband’s.
I don’t have to answer for what my husband does.  But I do have to account for my own actions, so it is important to behave and respond with loving kindness even if he doesn’t deserve it.  I sure wouldn’t want him constantly trying to change me, so why would I do that to him.  And besides, only God can change hearts.
Psalm 26:2 “Test me, Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind.

3. There is peace even in unpeaceful conditions.
It’s so much more about where our focus is than our circumstances.  I notice that when I am doing my morning run if I think about my legs and how tired they are then I constantly want to quit.  But if I think about what is up ahead, even imagining God with His arms open waiting for me, the running is much easier.  I’m still running the same path, no circumstances have changed.  But when my focus changes the task becomes lighter and joyful.  It’s the same with marriage.  What we focus on can make or break our attitude.
Philippians 3: 14 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

4. You’re not so perfect either.
It’s true.  I’m no picnic to be married to.  The things that are important to him are not my strong suits.  He likes orderly receipts and spreadsheets and our finances to be all neat and tidy.  This is not something I am good at and it probably looks to him like I don’t care about it.  I need his understanding in these areas and I should be willing to give him the same when he doesn’t seem to appreciate my desire to discuss my ideas about home decorating.
Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…”

5. It is your behavior that can win over your husband.
Seeing your grace and humility may be just what your husband needs so that he may seek righteousness for his own life.  Even though this verse refers to unsaved husbands, it cannot be denied that being forgiven has a deep impact on our husbands.  When I forgive him for hurting me or inconveniencing me, it leaves room for the Holy Spirit to touch his heart and do a good work.  That’s not even mentioning the impact your behavior has on your children….the influence you have as a woman is far reaching.
1 Peter 3:1-2 if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”

This tax season I have learned to be more patient.  God has given me the husband I needed to sharpen my weak areas and as much as that hurts sometimes, I can feel myself becoming the woman I really want to be.  One who is willing to be selfless and caring even when it isn’t deserved.

Let’s build one another up and encourage each other to look to God for our support and strength.  I’m excited to see what God can do with a group of women who are willing to set their needs aside for the husband and let God fill in the gaps.

Women encouraging women

1L, 4Ds and 5K

1L, 4Ds and 5K

It’s been a girl themed week.

Last Thursday my 4 daughters and I went big city shopping.  It was a birthday shopping trip for my oldest daughter Grace since I was going to be gone over the weekend of her birthday.  We spent the whole day hitting everything from anthropologie to thrift stores.  The girls are now set for clothes for the rest of the warm weather season, which is a relief to me since shopping with them is a test in endurance.  Of me and my wallet.

daughters

For myself, I am on the search for t-shirts with sleeves.  Not long sleeves or 3/4 sleeves.  Just plain old short sleeves that are long enough to cover my arm flaps.  It’s a sad day when you nearly slap someone with your extra arm skin and I am trying to avoid that with sleeves and prayer.

Saturday and Sunday I went to Austin.  I ran my first 5K this weekend.  I did it with my sister….she gave it to me for my birthday and it was a double treat to get to spend the time with her.

I have never had any interest in doing any kind of running or, really, moving at all.  But after walking every morning since last July it was pretty easy.  And on a cool spring morning….almost heaven.

My first 5k

To keep the girl theme going I will be going on a photoshoot for my daughter’s 17th birthday this week.  Shopping is not her thing.  She asked for a photoshoot in the city and as an added bonus she wants to be there when the sun rises to get the best lighting.  Leave the house at 6AM….oh sure.  Because giving birth to you wasn’t enough of a sacrifice.

Next week I need to have a boy themed week.  Those are much easier.  Just dump some Legos in the living room and throw food into the middle every few hours.

Have a great April!

Taking Care of Your Hair Using Essential Oils!

Taking Care of Your Hair Using Essential Oils!

I am super-duper excited to be joining Kerri and all my oily friends this week to share tons of ways to detox your home!  Did you see her homemade mouthwash?!  Cool!

I am sharing about hair care using Young Living oils…..we have an abundance of hair around here, as you can see.

Taking care of your hair with essential oils! -- The Pennington Point

My girls and I all work hard to keep our hair healthy and nice looking.  Several of my daughters have used the no-poo method (where you don’t use shampoo at all) and they liked it in some ways, but it was hard to keep up with.  Right now we are using natural shampoos, but we are always looking for new ideas that are natural, easy and less damaging to our hair.

So when I tried this recipe for “Sweet & Sassy Hair” from the book, “The Chemical Free Home” by Melissa Poepping I was thrilled!  It is easy to use and makes your hair so shiny and bouncy!  I just put it into a little glass spray bottle (I buy these where I buy my rollon bottles) and keep it with my hair products.  After I wash my hair, I spray this on while it’s still wet and let it dry.  I am thrilled with how healthy my hair feels!

My recipe is slightly different than the one in the book because I didn’t have one of the oils she suggests.  So I’ll share my altered recipe (which I love!) for you.

Hair care using essential oils!

Sassy Hair Spritz

Fill an 8oz. amber glass bottle about 2/3 full with distilled water and 1 TBSP of witch hazel (this helps it last longer).  Add 12 drops lavender, 8 drops lemon, 8 drops rosemary and 4 drops geranium.  Shake well before using.  Spray on wet hair.

Yep.  That’s it.  It smells WONDERFUL and it’s so good for your hair and scalp.  You could also add Melaleuca if you have a problem with dandruff or scalp irritation.

You can make a scalp/hair conditioner by using jojoba oil as a base instead of water.  Just mix it into a cup and massage it into your scalp and let it sit while you’re in the shower and then wash it out.  Add a little peppermint to it for a scalp tingling extravaganza.  And if you (or someone you love) deals with stinky hair, add some Melrose to it.  That’s one oil I use often with my teens!

So, are you ready to jump in to this wonderful world of caring for yourself and your family naturally with essential oils?? The time is now! Click HERE to learn more or contact the person who introduced you to the “Detox Your Home” Spring blog series! :) We are all offering a FREE copy of The Chemical Free Home to anyone {in the U.S.} who signs up with premium starter kit through April 7th!!

Taking care of your hair using essential oils!

Next up is my good friend Brandy from The Marathon Mom!

To check out all 30 posts in the “Detox Your Home” Spring blogger series, click here.


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Helping Siblings Find Their Love for Each Other

Helping Siblings Find Their Love for Each Other

Since it’s the day of love, I have to talk a little today about helping siblings show love for each other.

Sometimes the heart comes before the actions, but sometimes the actions come first.  In this case, you can act like you love someone even if you don’t always feel it.  Being loving toward someone doesn’t require feeling loving toward them.

Do your kids need encouragement in showing love for one another

When I notice a bitterness growing between a couple of my kids, I will give them some assignments.  I will tell them each to do something kind for the other, in secret.  I give them some ideas if they need it, then they are to only tell me what they did.  Don’t tell anyone else!

It’s a way of helping them think about what their sibling needs and what pleases him.  To think about another person is a skill that we need to practice and this is a good way since it’s done in secret. Telling only you about the kindness gives you a chance to help them see where the gaps are in their acts of kindness.  Is it really helping their sibling?  Can they do more?  Are they thinking of themselves?  Did they successfully bless their sibling?

You should praise their efforts even if it was small, even if you are a bit disappointed in the lack of sacrifice.  Then give them their next assignment.  Maybe they need some guidance.  But the bulk of the idea should be their own. Of course, they don’t know that their sibling is being given the same task.

Some ideas for secret acts of kindness:
1. make their bed
2. clear their place at the table
3. finish a chore for them
4. help with school work
5. share your dessert
6. let them have first choice on something
7. ask their advice
8. give a genuine compliment
9. offer to do something they like
10. let them have the best place to sit These are just a few ideas to get you started.

Encouraging this kind of love between siblings is a great way to build a godly, loving relationship!

Love One Another: Obedience is Key

Love One Another: Obedience is Key

One of the questions I get asked most often is about siblings fighting.  “How do you keep your kids from fighting?!”

There are many possible root issues for fighting and we will talk about some of those later in the series, but today I am going to tell you my first tip on this.  It is about obedience.

Obedience to parents is key to siblings getting along....great post!

(I know….people don’t like the word obedience, but God uses it in His Word so I am comfortable using it.)

In order for you to have influence over your children’s relationship with each other, they need to be obedient to you.  If you say, “You two need to stop arguing and get your chores finished,” they should immediately do it.

You can deal with heart and sin issues later, but for now let’s just help them to obey you.  If your children are fighting even after you have told them to stop, then I suspect they are not obeying you in many other areas as well.  It’s up to you to pay attention to their willingness to do what you tell them to.

Teaching them to obey you at the dinner table or at bedtime is part of teaching them to get along with one another.  It’s all connected.

So work on obedience in your home and you will be making strides in improving their relationship with each other.

Colossians 3:20 “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”

Now hang on….we’ll be talking more about their attitudes toward each other next week!  If you’re wondering how to get your children to obey, here are a few of my posts on that subject:

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