One of the difficulties in helping your kids build godly relationships with each is teaching them to be happy for one another. It takes maturity to set your own wants aside and let someone else get the attention. This kind of maturity takes time to develop. I want to encourage you to be patient about it, but still expect growth.
A great tip is to be very, very consistent. I can’t stress enough how important consistency is in every area of raising kids. If you teach them, for example, to act joyful when their brother is opening his birthday presents and not get all annoyingly selfish about it. Then when they flub up…..hold them to it. Correct the behavior, don’t let them get away with acting like they should get some of the stuff their brother has. But also be kind and understanding.
Don’t get mad or irritated by it. Just keep correcting and don’t give in.
You can’t expect them to show loving care for their sibling if half of the time they get the message from you that being jealous and attention grabbing works. Spend time teaching them how much God loves them and gives them each what they need.
Keep at it…..it is possible for your kids to love each other and rejoice in each other’s blessings!
Here are a couple of articles I recently wrote about raising kids. Parenting is a tough job and it’s always nice to get some encouragement on the journey!
And here’s a great one my daughter Grace wrote about how God uses the struggles in life to grow you!
Have a great weekend!
This is part of a year long series on sibling relationships. To start from the beginning go HERE.