This week’s YouTube video is about a subject near and dear to my heart….taking a break!
I have shared this with many groups when I speak and I always get a food of emails afterward asking me questions about how it works. I go into some of it in the video and in this older post, but I want to answer a few more questions.
Q: How do you get your husband to agree?
A: You shouldn’t try to manipulate him, but simply lay out the idea. The more you can make it easy for him the better it will work. We don’t want to overwhelm the poor guy. Have the house cleaned up and the kids in a good mood. Don’t try to control what happens while you’re gone…this is their time. When you get home, don’t complain if it’s messy or he did something “wrong”.
Q: But I don’t trust anyone else to take care of my kids.
A: Mom, your kids will be fine for a few hours without you. In fact….it is GOOD for them and for Dad to spend time together without you. Ask God to help you let go of trying to control everything. It’s not healthy! To quote the most annoying song of 2014, “Let it go! Let it go!….”
Q: What if I have a nursing baby?
A: Sometimes I would take the baby with me, sometimes I would nurse then leave for a couple of hours, sometimes I would stay home and lock myself in my bedroom. You can still get a break when you’re nursing. In fact, I remember several times I used my night off to SLEEP!
Q: My kids won’t leave me alone in my room!
A: You can teach your kids not to bother you when you need a break. The trick is not to answer them when they call or give in to their manipulation. Your husband (or whoever is helping) is perfectly capable of taking care of that they need. You could even practice it for 10 minutes during the day for a week or so to make sure they get the concept.
Q: What kinds of things do you do?
A: Honestly, my favorite thing is to go in my bathroom and have time for personal care. I scrub my face, straighten the bathroom and bedroom, clip my fingernails, condition my hair, etc. That is how my bathroom stays clean and I get my grooming time in. I listen to praise music or podcasts and get my soul taken care of at the same time.
If you have other questions leave them in the comments and I’ll try to help!