It’s time for some more sibling love.
Sometimes you just want a tip that gives you a physical way to tell when you need to make a correction. I mean, talking about consistency and love is great but…..not always so easy to grab a hold of. This one you can’t miss. Here you go…..
Don’t let your kids touch each other.
It’s that simple. I don’t mean hugging and being silly, of course! I’m talking about when they are criticizing or correcting or arguing. No touching. Not ever.
You might be thinking I’m just talking about hitting, but it’s a lot more than that. It’s pulling someone’s hand away or pushing/nudging them or grabbing something away from them.
If a boy wants his sister to stop leaning into his space, he shouldn’t push her away. He should ask her to move. Then she should move willingly. If she won’t move, instead of pushing her he can follow my tattling plan or he can nicely ask you for help with the problem. But forcibly moving another person is never the solution.
Last week at the dinner table one of my boys, instead of verbally correcting his brother for not leaning over the plate with his food, gently pushed his brother’s hand back over the plate. He wasn’t mean about it, but it still was not OK. So I just reminded him that instead of pushing, he could have just mentioned it to his brother and if it became a problem then he could talk with me about it and together we would figure out some ways he could handle that.
The other person should have the opportunity to decide whether or not they are going to move, stop, give up the toy, whatever. It should not be forced upon them.
If, after reading this, you notice that your kids are doing it, sit them all down and talk about how it’s wrong to force another person to do something. We all want to be respected and treated with kindness.
Then run through some practice sessions. Have one of them invade the other’s space then freeze and talk through their options, having them pretend they’re doing each one. It’s like a game and they can see what it looks like to be respectful and how to properly respond when someone asks you to stop something you are doing. The recipient definitely needs to practice responding with kindness also! And Bible verses are great to reinforce this.
Matthew 7:12 “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
Go HERE for 10 more verses great for siblings to learn.
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