Today we’re going to talk about my very favorite way to connect with my kids. Touch.
I’m not a very touchy person. I don’t naturally reach out and touch other people. It’s easy to touch the babies, but once they got older I would notice that I wasn’t really touching them anymore. So I decided to change that. A few years ago I purposed to touch each child everyday, no matter how small of a touch. I wanted them to feel that connection with me.
I’ll sidle over to one of the teenagers in the kitchen and just bump them with the side of my body. A little love nudge. Or I will put my hand on their back or shoulder. If I’m standing behind them I might put my hand on the top of their head. Tap their nose, pat them on the back, hold their hand, sit right next to them so your sides touch, squeeze their elbow, muss their hair, hugs, kiss their cheek, anything to get a little touch in. My favorite and the one I use most is rubbing my hand across their back. “I love you,” I’m saying without speaking.
Sometimes older kids will seem uncomfortable. Don’t believe it. They need to be touched. You can make it light and natural. But do it every day. It’s important.
(And I want to add here that many of these connecting ideas will work for your husband too….especially this one!)
See you tomorrow!
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