I get so, so many emails asking about my clothes. Being a big girl, it is a challenge to look good and be modest. I thought I’d share some of my tips. Keep in mind that I despise having my picture taken. You will be looking at them and think to yourself, “Come on Lisa…smile already!” I don’t know why I look like I am not smiling. Being non-photogenic is my curse. Looking at my pictures is yours.
1. Always be on the lookout. If I am in a store and have a few extra minutes I make a quick scan of the plus-sized clothes. It is easier to shop for a general look than try to find something specific. Since I have such a short list of items I will wear, I can look pretty quickly.
2. Know what looks good on you. If you haven’t ever done it, take a long afternoon (without kids!) and go to a store that has a large plus-sized section and try on literally everything. Try different sizes, different shapes, things you would never wear, things you can’t afford. You aren’t looking for something to buy, you are looking for the right size and shape for your body. It will be obvious what looks terrible and what isn’t too bad and maybe, if you hit a jackpot, something that actually looks pretty good. Take a friend if you need an opinion, but make sure it is an honest friend. Now you know what looks good and you and you can focus your wardrobe on that.
3. Know your colors. If you don’t know what colors compliment your complexion, do this….stand in front of a mirror and have a bunch of clothes (or you can use pieces of paper), in all different colors. One at a time hold them up under your face and see which ones really make your eyes pop or your skin glow. I know that I look better in white that off white. I can wear pinks, blues, etc. If I wear orange I look like I am near death. I won’t wear a color that looks bad on me no matter what the hot trendy colors are. You can always accent with the trendy colors, but stick to your most flattering colors in your clothes.
4. Mix and match. I don’t buy many dresses because I like to put together different outfits. So I buy basic skirts and tops that I can change around. I have basic t-shirts in all of my best colors so I can throw them under other shirts.
5. Accessories are a plus-sized girls’ best friend. We may not have a lot of clothing options, but we can wear almost any of the accessories. Shoes, necklaces, rings, scarves, etc. can make or break an outfit. There is a balance between looking great and looking like you are a fat girl that tries too hard. But don’t be afraid to wear several accessories. A scarf with a flower pin or great shoes and a statement necklace can distract from a huge stomach and lunch lady arms.
6. Don’t put yourself down. We all have struggles and one of mine is my weight. I wish it were different and I am working on losing weight. But for now this is my size. It is my body and I should love what God gave me and who He created me to be. There is no reason I can’t look really nice. Don’t let your weight keep you from looking your best and dressing pretty. You are beautiful and amazing no matter what your size!
I hope some of these ideas will help you on your journey to looking nice and appreciating what you are.
Be sure to check out my series on embracing modesty where I give more tips for plus-sized gals AND teens!