Have I told you about my night off?
When the kids were really little James saw that I needed a regular break, one that I could count on. So he gave me a night off. Every Thursday as far back as I can remember has been “Mom’s Night Off.”
No matter what was happening, he would come home by 6:00 (earlier if he could) on Thursdays and let me have the whole evening off from the home and the kids. My friends all got to know that if they wanted to do something with me like go to dinner or go shopping, I could do it on Thursday night.
It’s easier now, but when the kids were all babies I had to be creative about what I would do with my night off. If I had a nursing baby I would go in my bedroom and close the door. James would bring me the baby to nurse then take it when I was finished. Sometimes I would clean my room, sometimes I would give myself a pedicure and a facial, sometimes I would just read. Some Thursdays I would leave the house and just drive around listening to music or I’d go window shopping.
My Thursday nights off have always been a treasure to me. As much as I love being with my family, there have been times when I lived for Thursday night. It was easier to make it through a hard day knowing I was going to get a little break soon.
Once the kids got older, my night off got earlier and earlier until now it starts around 10:00 in the morning. I get the kids settled with schoolwork then I leave. I run errands, make phone calls, maybe have lunch with a friend and come home in the early evening. When I get home I will spend a few minutes checking on everyone then I still close my door and take care of my personal needs. I will clean my bedroom and bathroom then do my nails or organize my clothes for the next week or maybe grade papers….whatever will help me to feel equipped for the week ahead.
I encourage you moms to talk to your husband about having a night off. If you can’t do it weekly, then try it once a month. If you don’t have a husband, set it up with your kids to leave you alone one night a week. You should be able to find a way to give yourself a much needed break.
You won’t believe the difference it can make.
Linking to Encouraging Words Wednesday.