James and I strongly believe in preserving our children’s purity and protecting their childhood. As parents it is our job to guard their hearts. This means that our kids don’t watch TV, read books we haven’t read first, play violent or sensual video games and they never, EVER see a movie that we haven’t previewed.
This summer there are several movie releases that our children have expressed an interest in seeing. It doesn’t matter how sweet the movie looks, it must have been viewed by Mom (or sometimes Dad) before any of them can watch it. They almost always pay for their own movie tickets, so it’s just a matter of me being able to preview it.
It takes time and money to make this happen. I have to pay for myself to go see it once, then pay for myself again if the movie gets my stamp of approval. I have to find a free afternoon or evening to get away alone, which isn’t always easy. Sometimes we just don’t have the time or money for me to see it twice, so we simply don’t see the movie. It’s just a movie. We wait for it to come out on Netflix which still means I have to find the time to watch it first, which I often do late at night after everyone has gone to bed. Then I watch it again with the children, at least the first time they see it.
I’ve already previewed 4 movies this summer and there are several more on the horizon. A couple of them we will let the kids see, most of them we won’t. Our children understand completely and I know if you asked them they would tell you they appreciate being protected. Sometimes, when asked if she minds being so sheltered, Grace will reply, “Why would I? My parents just want what’s best for me and that movie/book/show will still be there when I am ready to see it.”
It can be a pain…using my precious alone time to see movies that I have no interest in watching. I don’t mind. Motherhood is filled with doing things that aren’t my first choice of how I want to spend my time. I am happy for my children to be able to see a movie every once in a while, but not at the expense of exposing their hearts and minds to things we would normally shelter them from.
It is never worth potentially damaging your character for the sake of entertainment. Never.